For women who get attached too easily, you might say things that scare guys off. You might be too enthusiastic about his world too soon. Or you might offer too much of yourself too early on in the “friendship” stage. For the majority of the time, you also might be fiercely faithful. Some guys just like the attention that you offer them, and so they give off the impression that they like you back.
But, for me at least, it’s frustrating that we have so many unofficial “rules”. I never know what time is a good time to share my feelings, or if I even should say anything at all. Half the time I’m told by society to say what I feel before it’s too late, and other times I’m told to not say anything at all and let the guy take the lead (if he ever gets the hint). It’s even harder for women who feel emotions deeply and go after what they want.
I think that is how “almost” relationships get created. One person gets attached too quickly or too easily and the other person has no clue or doesn’t care. It’s so easy sometimes to latch on to the kind words that someone says or to put emphasis on the body language that we convey as meaningful. It’s heartbreaking when you put effort into one person because you thought they reciprocated your feelings and then come to find out that they have disappeared.
He may have liked you in the beginning, but then time, distance, or any other factor could have come into play. Sometimes we break the hearts of someone we really like because we don’t know what we’re doing. Maybe his feelings changed. Maybe someone prettier came along. Maybe you had too much love to give him. But if any of these things happened and he disappeared without a warning that just means that he wasn’t right for you. Your frequencies may not have matched up or the connection got lost somewhere. There could be a thousand factors that were involved in the short amount of time that you talked to this person. It just means that there’s a possibility that someone better might come along someday.
If you ever get the chance to meet someone who puts in the same effort of attention that you do, then you know that all of the past wasn’t in vain. I’m still trying to find that person, but I’ve learned to let them come to me. You shouldn’t have to rein yourself in every time you like someone. Guarded people once gave too much of their heart. But by the time a person came along that needed their love, they had already put up their defenses. All of this may be false hope in the end, but I think it’s worth it to find someone who appreciates your enthusiasm and can communicate with you about their feelings. If you can realize that you get attached too easily, then I think you are one step closer to finding someone who will love that quality about you.
