Dear future significant other,
If you're reading this, I must have let you into my crazy life. If you're reading this, you probably already know a lot about me and perhaps my past relationships. Therefore I won't use this article to bore you with those details you already know. Instead I want to use this article to tell you what I think a relationship should be and how it might fit into my life. So are you ready? Here we go.
As you might already know, I am a very busy person. As a junior in college, I'm in the process of getting through classes for my major on top of finding an internship for the summer that will look good on my resume along with being an active part of organizations that I'm either a member of or am in charge of while, in the back of my mind, I always have the future on my mind. Where am I going to be in two years? What do I ultimately want to do after graduation and how can I reach that goal? I find that most of the time I spend is either in class, in meetings, or doing homework. I usually look like a chicken with my head cut off during the week - especially on Tuesdays when I have back to back meetings from 1PM to 5PM. With that being said, I'm a very independent person. I have my own schedule of what I have to get done, what I need to do, and I don't like to depend on other people unless I absolutely have to. So, before you read any further, am I intimidating you? I promise that's not what I want and if I am, a relationship isn't what would be best for us. You see, I need someone who understands my busy schedule. Someone who's not gonna get frustrated when I'm up late doing homework. Someone who is going to understand that I can't hangout some weekends. Someone who's going to not add unnecessary stress to my already stressful life.
That's not saying that I won't accept problems or that I'll shut you and your life out. In fact that is the last thing I want to do. I'm the type of girl who cares more about other people than myself so I will always pick up if you call. I will always try to help when you need it. I'll, honestly, probably call you out if I know you're struggling and you deny it. It's my nature to help people, I've done it all of my life. In grade school, I was always the girl in the middle of my friends fighting because I wanted to make sure everyone was happy. I won't let you go to bed upset and I'll be beside myself if I upset you. My promise to you? I promise that I'll work through anything. Whether it's something I need to work on for myself, something I should help you out with, or even something that will help our relationship.
Because you see, ultimately a relationship as something that two people build not only because they have strong feelings for each other but because you can make each other better. It's not about finding your other half, instead it's seeing that you're a whole. It's seeing that you deserve someone who sees you, the real you, and wants to make all of you even more wonderful than you already are. It's knowing what you've been through but not allowing it to define a new relationship. Everyone deserves a clean slate and a fair chance. Plus if you're still upset over someone else, you probably shouldn't be with someone new. With that being said, I don't have time for games. And even if I did, I can probably play them better than you. I'm going to always put 120% of my heart into something and that includes this. If I'm in a relationship with you it is because I think that you're a genuinely great person and someone who probably doesn't mind my craziness (ie: my puns or slang or song lyrics) but rather goes along with it. Heck you might be just as crazy. You see, I don't just walk away from people without a reason and I won't get into anything I'm not ready for or that I don't want to be in. So obviously I'm ready for whatever this relationship might hold.
So, you made it this far in the article (practically the end). I guess there's just one last question to ask:
Are you ready for this new beginning/adventure?
Well, I hope so because adventure is my middle name.
