I’ve heard it, you’ve heard it, it has even been made into a little greeting inside a Hallmark card, but that doesn’t change the fact that, “follow your heart” is bad advice.

The reason that this phrase is so destructive is that it encourages you to go with what you feel rather than what you know to be true.

It lets you believe that your emotions can be in control and that it's okay that way. It guides you to places that may not even be safe, but because your heart said to go “you knew that it was right.”

Your heart is deceptive and often the exact opposite of your logical reasoning; this is because your heart wants you to live on the edge with no regards to anyone or anything else other than yourself.

Yes, sometimes you do have to make decisions that are in your best interest; but no you shouldn’t be led to have this mindset in all scenarios.

It is not like your heart is going to make this easy for you, because just as much as you want to make the right decision…your heart wants you to make its choice that it wraps up and puts a bow around.

It is in these moments that you really have to be unyielding; you as the commander and chief have to determine the path that needs to be made whether its tough, long and brutal or not.

All it takes is some wrong decisions to invade your heart and then it’s hooked; it becomes a place full of lies and shame rather than a place of innocence.

And because we have all slipped up at one point and time our hearts already have a taste of what is impure.

Often times we make tainted choices because of the way we feel. We thought that it would be okay to just give in this one time, yet next time it would be a different story.

But come to find out, the story we thought we could save ourselves from becomes the thing that makes us stumble…it hurts us more and more each time we allow that decision to be “okay.”

We then begin to blame either someone else or ourselves, we question how in the world did I get so deep into this trouble…the answer is simple, it’s because we thought it would be okay to follow our heart.

What we forgot to take into account is that the heart also longs for permanence.

It wants to make every situation in our lives something built for the long run, which in every decision that we make the heart is trying to shape the outcome with the thought in mind of where things “might go” in the future.

Shouldn’t we acknowledge that we must make a decision off of where things are right now, and stop anticipating for something that hasn’t arrived yet? When/If that possibility comes true then that is the moment we make that decision.

Sometimes it is our duty to call our hearts out and remain aware of the possible scheming going on. We should really think twice before we start writing a story we later on will wish never had begun.