Social media has put a damper on relationships and what they used to stand for. I swear every time my boyfriend and I go out, I hear some one screaming "GOALS" or "RELATIONSHIP GOALS" from all the way across the street. I have honestly grown to hate that title so much. Wait, is it a title? A hashtag? A phrase? Or an image ? When people say it, I just roll my eyes, because when did loving someone become a goal? When did holding your bf's/gf's hand down the street become a goal? When social media put a negative perspective on relationships, that's when. Social media has allowed people to see relationships through rose colored glasses which sets them up for failed relationships.

Side Note: Do you have that one friend on Facebook (or any social network) that just airs out all of their dirty laundry about the person they are seeing?

Then you scroll down to see the comments and you see " Yo, call me this is not for Facebook".

If you have had an argument with your bf/gf and have run to Snapchat, Facebook, Instagram and Twitter to post about it, you have become a victim, my dear.

I think the idea of the term "goal" came from those who lacked certain things in a relationship. OR what people want their relationship to be like. I feel that it is harder to date now because so many people want different things. On the other hand, I honestly thought relationships were what people wanted them to be. But now people have high expectations to what goes into a relationship. Now I am not saying that people should lower there standards at any cost. People just need to have standards that are realistic.

I am in a relationship but I still get so angry at some of the terms that are being thrown around regarding relationships. I've been through what all my single girlfriends are going through. Now I would not say I am a relationship expert but I do know a lot based on my dating experience.

I will say that before the relationship I am in now, I honestly did not want to date at all. My favorite song at the time was "I don't f**k with you" by Big Sean and my hashtag was #donewithlovetiredoftryin. I was literally scared of the word boyfriend. Sometimes the pain and hurt a relationship can cause is not a beautiful feeling at all. That pain that your heart feels is like you are dying and I would NEVER in my life wish that on anyone.

(At this part of the article I am playing all my "in feeling" songs, K. Michelle, Alicia Keys, Mariah Carey, Fantasia, Tamia, Dej Loaf, Tink, Oh and don't forget BEY)

Going through the bad times of relationships allowed me to realize that loving someone else is hard, especially on a intimate level. I realized that being in a relationship makes one completely vulnerable and that is the part that people are truly scared of.

Relationship goals that are trending all over social media networks but only the good times in a relationship. All you see in memes are couples buying matching watches, his and her's cars, and matching outfits. But what about the disagreements when those couples are not communicating? The memes DON'T show when one person is sitting on the bed crying and the other is storming out the room. The memes DON'T show the budget when a couple is trying to pay bills or get that fancy watch.

Here is a conversation I had with my younger cousin:

Her: I didn't know relationships needed so much work

Me: Well what makes you think relationships are easy?

Her: You know all the "goals" people brag about on IG? It's not all what it's cracked up to be

Me: That's because all that "meme" business about relationship goals is not real! Oh and if you have those goals going into a relationship you may as well get out of it because you have to learn how to love someone for who they are in order to make goals with them. Not every one is willing to just open their heart anymore. It takes A LOT of time and patience.

With that you may ask "So, Aaliyah, what are your relationship goals?

1. Having Commitment

2. Gaining Trust

3. Teaching each other how they want to be loved

4. Getting our degrees

5. Building our empire—TOGETHER

6. Getting Married

7. Starting a Family

If you start dating and marriage is not the goal, what is the purpose of dating in the first place?

People on social media such as Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram need to stop trying to influence relationships. It will only get harder for people to trust because the "Relationship Goals" that are trending on every social network are not real.