Five Things You Shouldn't Do As A PNM

Five Things You Shouldn't Do As A PNM

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So you're thinking about going Greek? Sorority Recruitment can be an exciting time in a young woman’s life. She gets to meet all these new people and has the chance to really connect with other women who could potentially be her new sisters. However, there are a few things that experienced recruiters would advise a Potential New Member NOT to do as she goes through the Recruitment process.

1. Choose a chapter based on their name.

“Oh, your name is Sarah? We don’t let Sarahs in our chapter. Sorry,” said no sorority woman ever. We don’t choose our members based on their names, so you shouldn’t choose us based on ours. What you should do is consider how your personal values line up with the chapters you get to experience. By doing so, you won’t be stuck feeling like you made a huge mistake down the road.

2. Lie about your past/experiences.

Recruiters may only have a few minutes to spend with you, but I can say from experience that we truly want to get to know you. Being a disaffiliated member taught me that genuine interest in someone and their experiences goes a long way. By being honest with the person you are talking to and honestly trying to make a connection, you could either gain that person as your new sister or as a new friend if you decide to go in another direction.

3. Speak negatively about a chapter to a different chapter.

As much as we love our letters, we never want to hear you bash another chapter. It’s a common misconception that trash talking a chapter in front of a different one gets you a long way. That’s just for the movies, ladies. We’re all Greek women, and at the end of the day, we all want to grow through the recruitment process. They may not share our letters, but they are our Greek sisters forever.

4. Join for booze or boys.

Joining a chapter based on the party scene and selection of boys will be one of the biggest mistakes you will have ever made, if you make that decision. Booze and boys are both way too short lived. What lasts longer is the connections you make with women who are confident, intelligent, and respectable. You get out of the experience exactly what you put in.

5. Change who you are because you think you’ll be a better match.

Changing who you are goes against nearly every chapter goal there is. We aren’t trying to change you into this plastic Barbie doll who has perfect grades or a near perfect physique. Our goal as Greek Organizations is to mold you in a better version of the woman you already are. We want you to succeed in ways that you feel passionate about. We are along for your ride. Come as you are and grow with us!

You may be nervous to go through but so are we. We are so excited to meet you and share our Greek experiences with you. Being chosen as the VP of Recruitment for my college Panhellenic Council taught me that being Greek-minded is more important than anything when approaching a recruitment situation. As stressful and emotional as Sorority Recruitment may be on both the PNM and Chapter sides, it is one of the most rewarding experiences. Remember, be who you are, make genuine connections, and GO GREEK!

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10 Things I Threw Out AFTER Freshman Year Of College

Guess half the stuff on your packing list doesn't really matter
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I spent the entire summer before my freshman year of college so WORRIED.

I also spent most of my money that summer on miscellaneous dorm stuff. I packed the car when the time finally came to move in, and spent the drive up excited and confused about what the heck was actually going on.

Freshman year came and went, and as I get ready to go back to school in just a few short weeks (!!), I'm starting to realize there's just a whole bunch of crap I just don't need.

After freshman year, I threw out:

1. Half my wardrobe.

I don't really know what I was thinking of owning 13 sweaters and 25 T-shirts in the first place. I wear the same five T-shirts until I magically find a new one that I probably got for free, and I put on jeans maybe four times. One pair is enough.

2. Half my makeup.

Following in the theme of #1, if I put on makeup, it's the same eyeliner-mascara combination as always. Sometimes I spice it up and add lipstick or eyeshadow.

3. My vacuum.

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One, I basically never did it. Two, if I REALLY needed to vacuum, dorms rent out cleaning supplies.

4. Most of my photos from high school.

I didn't throw them ALL away, but most of them won't be making a return to college. Things change, people change, your friends change. And that's okay.

5. Excess school supplies.

Binders are heavy and I am lazy. I surprisingly didn't lose that many pens, so I don't need the fifty pack anymore. I could probably do without the crayons.

6. Cups/Plates/Bowls/Silverware.

Again, I am lazy. I cannot be bothered to wash dishes that often. I'll stick to water bottles and maybe one coffee cup. Paper plates/bowls can always be bought, and plastic silverware can always be stolen from different places on campus.

7. Books.

I love to read, but I really don't understand why I thought I'd have the time to actually do it. I think I read one book all year, and that's just a maybe.

8. A sewing kit.

I don't even know how to sew.

9. Excessive decorations.

It's nice to make your space feel a little more cozy, but not every inch of the wall needs to be covered.

10. Throw pillows.

At night, these cute little pillows just got tossed to the floor, and they'd sit there for days if I didn't make my bed.

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What It's Like Being An Introverted Leader

Different people lead differently.

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When you think of the qualities a leader or someone in a leadership position should have, being out-going is often mentioned. However, I don't think that always has to be the case. I've been a part of many different leadership opportunities and programs, yet I'm still the same socially awkward hermit I've always been. Being out-going and extroverted doesn't qualify someone to be a good leader, just like being shy and introverted makes you a bad one, it's about your skills.

When I went to a leadership program at a summer camp, I often heard that I didn't talk very much or I was too quiet and shy for a summer camp entertaining kids, I should have been more talkative. I'd also get a few counselors coming up to be that when they were in the same program I was in, they were also the same things I was and not to worry about it. Even now, I'm still quite and relatively shy person, but that doesn't discredit my ability to be a good leader, or anyone else's.

In my high school ASB (Associated Student Body) class, we took a fun personality test to find out what kind of leaders we were; someone who likes to be in charge, be in the spotlight, more organized, or stay in the background. I got someone who likes to be in the spotlight, which was a surprise to me too, but thinking about it, it makes sense. I'm not overly out-going, but given the right motivation, I don't mind going up to people and striking up a conversation.

I can also say that at some point I have possessed all four of these personalities or traits over the course of my different leadership roles. The reason I'm even bringing this personality test up is that it definitely shows that there are different types of leaders out there, and not all of them have to be extraverted. I tried to find the one I took but couldn't find the exact one, but if you're interested there are a ton of different ones out there.

Over time, I've learned and worked on many valuable skills, like conflict resolution, time management, actually listening to what others have to say, and more. I keep myself up to date with my surroundings and what's going on in the world, and I still meet and hang out with people, when I have time. People grow and learn on their own pace, we should let them without overly critiquing them.

In the end, whether someone is out-going or not shouldn't determine the ability they have to be a good leader, sure in some cases it's better to more extraverted, but it's not a make or break trait. So long as they have their mind in the right place and know how to handle different tasks and situations, it doesn't matter.

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