For six years, Carrie Bradshaw from Sex And The City waited around and repeatedly got her heart broken by Mr. Big. Even after everything he did to her, she went crawling back to him and, eventually, married the guy. Most women find themselves, at one point in their life, with a Mr. Big and are just as dumb as Carrie. The only problem is Carrie got a happy ending because someone wrote it for her. No real life Mr. Big is ever going to be your prince charming. There are reason girls date their own Mr. Bigs, and there is no stopping it.
1. Women always want what they cannot have. For years, Carrie had relationship after relationship with Mr. Big after he dated other women while dating her. Freaked out about her having a key to his place, he told her he never wanted to get married (even after he married someone else). Women always want what they cannot have, so unavailable guys also spark an interest. When a guy tells you he does not want to be with you, it is like a parent telling their child they cannot have a cookie. All of a sudden, the cookie looks even better than it did before.
2. Women want to be the girl who that guy changed for. Women want to be the exception. They want to be the girl who made the commitment phobe walk down the aisle, the girl who made the player settle down with one girl. It is a huge ego boost women dream of. To be able to say that guy changed it all just to be with me.
3. Women like a jerk. Plain and simple, women love guys who treat them badly. There is no science -- just years of facts proving women do not pick the nice guy. If that were true, Carrie would have ended up with Aiden. Women like bad boys; it makes them feel adventurous and more alive. And what young woman does not love being with a guy everyone else thinks is bad for her. It just makes the whole thing more exciting and challenging.
4. Women like strong, confident (usually) older men. Women want to be with a man. Someone going somewhere in life, who is maybe a little older, someone who can take care of things and their women. Mr. Big was successful and took charge. He knew what he wanted and he got it. That is attractive. Most women want a man who can take charge and is motivated to do something with their life. Even independent women want a man who can be strong and take care of things.
5. Women want someone who can always make them smile. The Mr. Bigs of the world have a lot of flaws, and they are probably not your future husband. However, they sure do know how to make a girl smile. They are fun, they give you silly butterflies, and they know how to make a girl happy -- at least for a little while. You share great times with them and they are great memories you will have, but in the end, that is all they will be.
The Mr. Bigs are there for fun, for a heartbreak everyone has to go through and to be an important part in helping you become who you are. If you do end up with your Mr. Big, remember to not spend too much money on your first wedding so you have enough to pay for the second one.
