You've probably complained about how guys are such assholes, and how you just want a guy that will treat you like "you deserve to be treated." The key to your happiness in your quest for a special relationship is actually much easier than you are making it.
The guy you claim as your best friend, the guy you went on a few dates with, but felt that there was no spark, or the guy that has professed his attraction to you before, but you may not see in a romantic way. Give these guys a shot at making you happy.
They are the ones that can put a smile on your face each and every day. They're the ones that will make great boyfriends, great husbands, and great fathers in the long run. They have kind and gentle hearts, and only want to be the reason behind your everyday smile.
What do you have to lose in giving someone that would treat you like a princess a chance? You are in the ultimate ideal position when it comes to trying to be in a relationship. Your fears you have for giving them a chance are irrational.
They're not going to be a damper in your life in any way, they're not going to hurt you, and even if you do break up, they're only going to be grateful for having been given the opportunity. They'll still be your best friend.
The best thing that can happen is that you fall for them the way they've already fallen for you, and you end up being very happy with them for a long time.
Yes, that isn't always the case. So if you give them the chance and it doesn't work out, that's fine! In college, many people believe that the person you date first in your university career is going to be the person that you end up with.
This cannot be more wrong.
Many people go through multiple significant others in the four-plus years that we're here and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! That's what college is about is finding yourself. Realizing your likes, your dislikes, and uncovering your true passions and feelings.
A lot of people want to be single in college so they can do whatever they want with whomever they want. That's fine, that's their own right. But it causes a lot less stigma if you fool around with the guy that you're essentially dating rather than with random hookups. It's also a lot less heartbreaking.
The guy that you call your best friend, but you're too afraid to ruin your friendship would be the best significant other. Developing a best friend doesn't happen after you've started dating. You start dating as best friends, and progress towards dating.
It doesn't work the other way around. You'll crush your former guy best friend, and if you try crawling back to him, you'll only notice that you alone ruined your friendship. Giving him a chance to be your boyfriend isn't going to ruin your friendship, erasing him from your life when you get a temporary boyfriend in college will end up being the dagger that gets driven through the heart of your dynamic together.
Why would you want anyone else, anyway? He already knows you better than anyone else and that's the perfect person to be with. Reach down, and eradicate him from the seemingly bottomless pit that is known as "the friend zone."
The guy that you felt "no spark" with after one date, or a few times hanging out, is another guy that you should actually give more of a chance to. This is ultimately a big downfall on your part because this is the nice guy that you had an attraction to at one point. That "spark" you're looking for is a romanticized moment that's repetitively displayed in every cliche Hollywood chick flick.
The moment they've captured is the long process of developing a relationship summed up into either a single moment where the guy proves his worth or a series of montages that show how well the couple in the story get along. That passion is never there right off the bat. Don't let Hollywood fool you into losing a potential amazing life companion because the first few dates weren't awe-inspiring.
The guy that professed his attraction to you, whatever your lame excuse was to not go out on a date with him, you should actually try and give him a chance. He clearly cares a lot about you. Guys don't express their feelings for a girl or even tell them that they like them. We're creatures of a silent nature. He broke his natural silence for you.
Appreciate his words and realize even if they weren't Nicholas Sparks-inspired, they mean a lot. He's going to be the man that puts you first, he's going to be the man that puts effort into the relationship. He's going to be the guy that realizes he's lucky that he has you, and will never cheat or even look at another woman.
Go on a few dates with him, and let him try wow you into becoming something special.
Give the guy you friend zoned a chance. Give the guy that has made it obvious he cares about you, a chance. Give the guy that you initially felt no spark with, one more chance. You have absolutely nothing to lose, and everything to gain.
There is no such thing as "too nice," but being too closed-minded is holding you back from happiness.
