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Don't Focus On Finding Someone Else In College, Be Selfish And Find Yourself

Prince charming or no prince charming, you rock the independent woman look.

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Whether you're used to being in a long-term relationship or you've been single your whole life, a lot of us expect that college is the place where we are going to find the love of our lives. But when it's not happening and our time in college is running out, we tend to get a little anxious and frustrated. The plans of getting engaged senior year and being married by 25, so we can have kids before 30, are looking a little bleak. Luckily, it's not the end of the world if you don't find your prince charming in college.

When you're in a relationship, you have to focus your efforts and attention to another person, you have to be selfless, you have to put in a lot of work to make it last. Being with someone else could potentially alter who you would otherwise be or how you would act. College doesn't have to be the time for that. You have the opportunity in college to discover who you are on your own without a partner. College is the time to be a little selfish and focus on yourself. You can do whatever you want. You can pursue your passions and find what makes you feel most alive. Find out who you are and what you want before you look for the right person because how can you know who the right person for you is if you aren't yet sure of yourself?

Don't let time scare you. You have so much of it, and during those days, weeks, months, or even years, love will find you at the right time. If you've heard the cliché "love comes when you least expect it," then you know how aggravating it is realizing that there's probably nothing you should be doing to find a boyfriend. But unfortunately, that phrase probably doesn't get truer. Don't waste your time searching for the right guy. College is and should be the time of your life. Don't make it less fun and more stressful by worrying about when your future husband is going to walk into your life. Go out with your friends, have the time of your life, join organizations, find your people. After your journey of self-exploration, you'll be thankful things didn't happen any differently.


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