Everyone loves a good bad boy, and season 15 of "The Bachelorette"'s Hannah Brown is no exception. If you have been living under a rock and aren't familiar with America's sweetheart, Hannah B., let me fill you in. Alabama native Hannah Brown is the star of the fifteenth season of "The Bachelorette." Although she is only 24, Hannah is searching for the perfect guy to be her husband. With 30 men competing for the love of one woman, things can get competitive. Through the whole process, the men show their true colors and one by one, they are eliminated.
I know that reality TV shows are not always true to what you see on the cameras, but there are still valuable lessons to be learned. All relationships start in the honeymoon stage, involving constant affection and attention. The true telltale of a man's character is the way that he reacts when there are disagreements or problems.
Typically, there are two types of men out there: the good and the bad. Of course, there is always a grey area of the ones in between, but true colors will shine through in the end. As a little girl, you're told that if a boy picks on you, that means he likes you. This might be the case when you're five, but at 19, I am here to tell you that if a boy is mean to you, he is not expressing his feelings the way he should and you should run far away. Like, as fast as you can. Don't stop running, girlfriend.
All reality TV shows need a villain. This gives the viewers someone to hate so much that they have to keep watching every week to see what type of havoc they will create next. In this season of "The Bachelorette," Luke P. has landed the role of the villain. Not only is he sneaky behind Hannah's back, but he also twists her words to shape himself into some type of moral hero. Definitely not husband material. In the latest episode, Luke questions Hannah's character and says that if she is exploring her other relationships on a physical level, he's calling it quits and going home. After she defends herself and says that no man will tell her what to do, Luke backpedals and twists her words around. He refuses to leave without explaining himself. This is classic toxic behavior. Manipulating your partner's feelings to make yourself seem like the victim is not cool. As a woman, you are entitled to be your own person and can choose to present yourself however you like. If a man is trying to control you, your actions, or your moral beliefs, channel your inner Hannah B. and cut him off.
Of course, every show needs a good guy too. This is the guy you root for, the one that you want to take home to meet your family. This is Tyler C. Tyler has worked his way into the hearts of millions of people across the nation by exemplifying everything you could want in a man. He's funny and can joke around with Hannah, but he can also listen to her thoughts and feelings when things get more serious. Tyler C. takes Hannah's insecurities of their relationship and proves to her that he can be the best version of himself in order for them to thrive. When looking for a partner, find someone who makes you feel comfortable and safe, but also pushes you to get out of your comfort zone. Find your own Tyler C.
Everyone has their own qualities that they look for in a relationship. Make sure that you are looking for the ones that really matter. Does he respect you? Does he make you feel like the best version of yourself? Are you happy? Bad boys are old news, ladies. Find someone that wants to know your dreams and aspirations. Find someone that wants to help you reach your goals. Whoever you choose, for the love of God, don't find a Luke P.
