The first step to any change is awareness. Without awareness, you would never recognize an issue, therefore never being able to work towards fixing it. This applies to almost anything in life, especially your own mentality. The simple concept of awareness can make all the difference, paving the way to emotional and mental growth.
A person of low emotional maturity would challenge everything anybody said that did not align with their beliefs. In order to raise that emotional maturity level, this person would need to be aware of the ideas that may not contribute to their growth, only then could they work towards a change. This concept is always easier said than done.
It's natural to want to win every argument. I mean, I don't get into them just to lose. But is always winning the best solution? Would winning every argument solve all the problems in your life? Simply put, no.
The number of arguments you will get into in your life is immeasurable, and there is no possible way to always be right. Even when you think you're right, sometimes there aren't even any rights or wrongs. This is where you pick and choose your battles, but you would need to be somebody of decent emotional stability in order to refrain from engaging in the conflict.
Here's an idea, next time you get into a disagreement, think deeply about the issue. Is this only right for you? Are you trying to convince the other person, or protect your pride by telling yourself that you're right? I challenge you to this as it is so common to want to be right all the time, and for that, you will believe you're right until you feel you have won.
But what if your logic is off? What if the thoughts that brought you to this conclusion were, in fact, toxic to your own mentality. This would lead to creating the idea of you being right, when in fact, this vision is not right to someone of higher emotional maturity.
Accepting this awareness for your own flaws is a hard pill to swallow, but could set you free from any unnecessary emotions. People get so comfortable in the mentality they are in that they never seek to see the potential they could reach. If you are constantly angry and feeling the need to engage in arguments, you are not emotionally stable and should strive to get past the stress of all that.
I write this not to tell everybody how to solve their problems, but to encourage the first step of awareness. Really think about this the next time you feel frustrated, or feel the need to go back and forth in order to prove your point. I know it is never easy to accept but truthfully, sometimes you are the problem. There is no possible way to be right all the time. But the next time you are wrong, use it as a lesson, really think about it and grow from it. Be aware of your emotional maturity, this is your gateway to acceptance. To be aware is to grow.
