Sometimes when you have a boyfriend, you can get caught up in him and distance yourself from your friends. But when college started I longed for girlfriends. I longed for my girlfriends from high school who now went to different schools and longed for new girlfriends that I would make in college. There're certain things that your friends give you, that you just can't find with any boy.
Brutal truth.
One of my best friends since middle school is the best at this. She will tell you the truth no matter how harsh it comes out. Sometimes that truth is painful and humiliating to hear....but it's needed. No one else will or has given me truth like she does. No boy will tell me I look bad in that dress or how I'm overreacting.
Sweet time.
This has become truer for me in college. The time I spend with my girls does not compare. Our late night Taco Bell runs and pee in my pants laughter doesn't compare to time with any boy. The deep conversations in the car about our weddings and our future families is so sweet to me. The night before we all left sitting in the parking garage is the time I treasure so much. There's a certain place in my heart for time with my girlfriends.
Loyalty.
I've had my break ups and in those empty and lonely times they were there. They were the ones that came to my house and listened to me cry. They were the ones there when I felt lost. I don't remember what they said, but all I remember is that they were there. When other people kicked me to the curb, they were there. Even when I didn't want them they were still there for me. You can only find that in a sweet friendship.
The awkward moments.
I have some really dumb moments growing up and literally my best friends have been the ones laughing at me and not with me. My best summer memories were spent working at a camp with my best friend, staying up late and pranking people. No one, but her will love me even when I don't shower in three days. My best friend growing up is the only one who knows of my really really awkward moments that I would not share with anyone. She was there for my bob haircut and church retreat boy crushes.
Deep love.
I love my boyfriend, but there's a different love for my friends that is greater. Especially now that my friends aren't a few miles away I realize I love them so much more. It's true that you don't really how much you love someone until their gone. In my case, until they go to college.
I would give anything to relive some of those moments with my friends. Find girls. Find girls that love you deeply and make memories with you. Sometimes it's hard to find girlfriends, but it's worth it. Trust me. Always make time for your girls, because just like they were the ones there after the breakup they'll be there when you get in your first fight with your husband.
You know who you are. Thank you, for loving me at my worse and for holding me up during every battle.
"The best kind of friendships are fierce lady friendships where you aggressively believe in each other, defend each other, and think the other deserves the world."
