Men And Women Should Know A Feminist Can't Be An Independent Woman And A Damsel In Distress

Men And Women Should Know A Feminist Can't Be An Independent Woman And A Damsel In Distress

Toxic Feminism has made women overrated.


Feminism thinks and acts in ways that contradict each other. Since feminism is a movement of female groupthink or group identity, there is no reason to consider one more voice that is not female. It is already assumed I do not know the first thing about women or their issues, and I agree.

As a man, I will not experience sexual objectification or be on the receiving end of predatory stalking the same way women do. I can only know "first blood" in the context of an action movie starring Sylvester Stallone. I cannot compare constipation or a hit in the family jewels to childbirth. There is no way for a man to walk a mile in a woman's stiletto heels like she does, but being a woman is far from understanding them.

What I do understand is that feminism has become a poor excuse for women to disagree with men, that is, it is reverse sexism against men. The only time a woman agrees with a man is if the same man agrees with the woman. Powerful reassurance is conveniently placed in front of a male mirror for female falsehoods to be reflected. Feminists say they are not a "girls only" club, that they are all about male inclusion, but that is only true when it is convenient.

A woman says she wants to pay for her own dinner, but come evening, she claims chivalry is dead. A woman complains that a job is not done a certain way. She stands in the way of the incapable man, only to say to him, "You started it, you finish it," acquiescing with her own words that came before he even got started: "I can do it better."

Petty arguments over sex and patriarchy, hierarchy and power struggles, all for what end? To assert that females belong to the dominant sex? That men are rendered purposeless without women?

The problem with feminist thinking is that it does not think in terms of individuality. Feminists play the role of the radical rebel, with their slogan tees and short-braided, sometimes flamboyant, dyed hair, raising awareness and giving credence to not just the women they march with but to all nondescript women. As if these women could not speak and think for themselves already. Even to call a woman a woman implies a different meaning if it is coming from a man's mouth instead of a woman's.

Feminists are also keen on defying every label, all except their own which is somehow not a label. A woman is a woman and a man is a man, but what is even more a common truth is that a human is a human. Why limit your existence to your biological makeup? An even better question: why limit your logic and reasoning to your reproductive role?

There is nothing wrong with being a feminist if it means being a woman with equal opportunity and the ability to discern without having to refer to her own sex (unless it is a matter of sexism). There is something wrong with feminism being toxic, the assumed right to everything a woman thinks of and does based on their sex and their sex alone.

Bette Davis says it best: "The real female should be partly male and the real male should be partly female."

It does not matter what sex you are or what sexual identity you have, all of which is still valid. These conditions, however, are intrinsically individual until they are commercialized into a group, a cause for celebrating the fact you are not alone in being different and unique. Sex is never an excuse to assert dominance over others, never individually, within matriarchy or patriarchy, or in any form of hierarchy.

It is involuntary activism that burdens and conditions the individual unknowingly to favor and support the group he or she is becoming. Feminism feeds on the feminine and it is only natural (and unnatural) that a woman forgoes being a woman to become a feminist.

Burn off the bandwagon. Me Too, Believe Women, all these associations and movements bring justice to the women who need it, but also gives women who do not need it the powerful hypocritical excuse of frontier justice. Lip service has become service.

A feminist should not have to be an activist to be a woman. A woman should not have to create conniving and emotional falsehoods for convenience and self-interest out of feminism.

If you cannot think for yourself, if you cannot act individually, if you cannot face reality without fantasy or you cannot help but think your fantasies are your reality, the group will think and has already thought for you.

Identity politics and politics as a whole has more choices now than it did during the proverbial age of "join or die." However we choose, one thing is certain. The group chosen is the group that censors us from other groups. Do not censor yourself and do not forget to discern your choices, right and wrong.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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I Am A Feminist And I Don't Hate Men

It's time to let the world know what Feminism truly is.


I know what you've heard about feminists. You've heard that we're all lesbians, that we hate men, and that we think women are the superior species. You believe that men should be fearing for their lives because "people like us" are making them feel less than worthy. You see us at protests waving our equality flags and think, "Wow, do they really have to do that?"

The answer?


And here's why:

For YEARS, women have been struggling to gain the same equal rights as men. We've been dealing with issues such as gender wage gaps, the right to vote, the right to have our own bank account (Yeah. Until 1974, we were required to have a man as a cosigner for our own bank accounts), and so many more.

Of course, times have changed, and women have definitely gained more rights, which is great! But the thing is, there's still inequality between women and men. That's just the truth.

Women are still getting harassed on the street every single day, and women are still being denied jobs because they "don't look" like what the company expects (which is usually, a man).

What does all of this have to do with feminists hating men, you may ask?

Well, for starters, these are the issues that we actually care about. Wait...what?

We, like feminists, care about equality. Hating men and wishing females were the only ones with rights? That's called inequality.

And we aren't here for it.

We stand for equal pay. We stand for women and men having rights over their own bodies. We stand for kindness towards anyone and everyone. We stand for equality.

Now that's what being a Feminist is all about.

So, you can complain about how much we hate men and wish they would burn in hell. But at the end of the day, we know what we stand for.

And hating men, isn't it.

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