A Feminist's Defense Of Baby It's Cold Outside

A Feminist's Defense Of Baby It's Cold Outside

"Say, what's in this drink?"
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One of the most discussed Christmas songs of all time is the classic hit, "Baby It's Cold Outside." It also happens to be one of the most controversial ones, due to the lyrics. If you take the lyrics at face value, it certainly is a bad song. It's about a woman insisting that no, she can't stay, and the guy she's with insists that she should stay and apparently has put something in her drink to make her want to stay. That seems horrible, and in the context of today, it truly is horrible. It's not at all a good song.

The thing that people forget when they listen to this song, however, is historical context. The song was originally written by Frank Loesser in 1944. That was seventy-two years ago. The world was a hell of a lot different seventy-two years ago.

The social climate of the 1940s was so incredibly different than that of today. Women and feminism were viewed in a completely different light then than they are in today's society. World War II was the first war that women were allowed to serve in, and even then it was only as nurses. The first female superhero, Wonder Woman, was introduced in this time period. Women did not do the things they can do today. Things were still incredibly traditional, and a woman staying alone with a man would have to give many excuses as to why she was staying, even if the truth was that she just wanted to stay the night with him.

When people pick apart the song, they tend to focus on the line "Say, what's in this drink?" When doing this, however, you ignore the rest of the context around it. "What's in this drink," was a question that people asked when they wanted to "blur their own responsibility for actions they wanted to take but that weren't considered proper." In a society where men hold all the power, the woman singing this long is her flipping the tables. She's saying that she wants the power over her life, that she wants to stay with him for the evening and if she has to blame that on drinking too much, then so be it. She is taking control over the situation, and that's truly something that's ahead of its time.

To look at this song through a modern lens is to ignore the history and the loops that women had to jump through to get what they wanted out of the relationships they had in their lives. Women had to do so much work to get what they wanted without being publically shamed for it, and that context is important to help understand that this song is just that; an anthem for strong, powerful women who worked to get what they wanted. And forgetting that is to forget an important part of feminism and women's history.

To cap it all off, here are a few of my favorite performances of "Baby, It's Cold Outside" for your enjoyment.

Elf - Zooey Deschanel and Will Ferrel

Glee - Darren Criss and Chris Colfer

Idina Menzel and Michael Buble

Cover Image Credit: Erin Lyon

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.
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Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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Christmas Of Remembrance Series: My Last Letter

Christmas time is not about the gifts... It is about something far, far more special.

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Dear Reader,

Thank you for your time.

This is a series that I have dedicated to those I have loved and lost. It was merely a thought, then an idea, and now a realized creation. Christmas time… all winter really is a hard time for me. It holds this duality in my life of being both my favorite and also my least favorite and difficult time of year. It has been that way for years now.

In a way, this series aids my closure and healing further, and it allows me to tell my story in a way that, to me, is less scary (one of the many great facets of this platform). It was never my intention to write this in order to reach people, or encourage people, or serve as an inspiration to anyone. This was for me and only me. No one else. But, if these pieces of writing do impact someone, somewhere, or make them feel encouraged or inspired in some way or another, or just simply make them feel, then I hope you have enjoyed them. If I can make someone feel, then I guess I have done my job.

The life of an artist is often an uncertain one. The life of a human is a trying one. But life is a journey, and all journeys have their trials. Their tests. Their triumphs and rewards. And they all have their losses. What matters most is what you make of all of it. What lessons you learn. What changes you make. What life you create for yourself. What art you create because of it all. It can be very, very hard. But it can all be glorious at the same time.

At the heart of this series, my words, there is this deep and valuable belief of mine: Christmas (or the Winter Holiday that you may celebrate) is so much more about presents and cooking and shopping and all that other bullshit… it is about family.

The family that is related by blood. The family that surrounds your heart. Your Mom. Your brother. Your dearest friends. The bonds that make life valuable. Worth living. These bonds are soulful bonds, ones that are far more special than any mere trivial object. So… be with them. Forgive. Forget. Heal. Mend what is broken. Reassemble what has been shattered. And stop worrying so much. Laugh together. Cry together. Heal on another. Heal together. And may your new days be better, brighter, and full of love.

Happy Holidays.

Ty


A song for you...

"Sense of Home" — Harrison Storm / YouTube

If you liked this series, I invite you to check out my previous article below…

To My Fellow 孤, The Sons Without Fathers On Father’s Day

As well as this article by a fellow creator…

What You Learn Losing A Parent So Young

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