For a few months, I was overwhelmed. Granted, I am pretty much always stressed out or overwhelmed, but for some reason, I also felt as though I was behind. Everyone around me kept moving forward in their lives. The world kept turning, and people around me were seemingly accomplishing something every day—except me. I was in a hole that I could not get out of, a hole that kept getting deeper and deeper by the day
I know, you're hoping if you can get unstuck from your rut that you will be truly happy. That was definitely the case with me. I believe that feeling stuck is The Universe's way of telling us to shake things up a bit. I just had the wrong approach to how to accomplish that. I wanted to travel, skydive, get an apartment, get a belly button ring and just live. There were so many options available to me, and I had no idea what would get me unstuck.
I donated a majority of my clothes and went shopping for a new look. I wanted to turn over a new leaf and be someone else. Unfortunately, I only bought one new t-shirt before I lost my patience and went home to go sit in the same chair and have the same thing for dinner. Donating all of my clothes just freed up space in my closet; it didn’t get me out of my rut.
The following day, I was out driving around trying to find more stores to get clothes from. A poorly lit sign for a shop on the side of the road caught my attention. I pulled over, walked into this random piercing shop, and ended up leaving with my belly button pierced. The happiness I felt from doing something wild and unexpected was short lived. Now whenever I look at that piercing, I think of all the money I wasted on getting it. It was new and exciting for a brief moment, but after that, it just became a nuisance that I had to make sure never got infected.
Hell, I even looked up cruises and was dangerously close to spending an obscene amount of money to leave the country as soon as possible. That vacation would've been admittedly awesome, but what would've happened once I came back? I would've fallen back into the same pattern and been left feeling stuck once again. Except this time, I would have had a lot less money and a sunburn. One spontaneous excursion won't fix feeling stuck. It'll just delay the time where you need to address what is happening in your life. Vacations are awesome, but they are meant to be temporary. You have to return to your life at some point.
The best way to get unstuck is to alter your everyday life. Call up an old friend, watch a movie you wouldn't typically watch, sign up for a class, or even make something different for dinner. The cure for being unstuck does not lie in how exotic or expensive your excursion is, but it lies in the truthfulness and the holistic approach of how you live your everyday life. Don't think you have to travel internationally, or that you have to poke a hole in your body to be truly happy. At the end of the day, none of that will change your life. A belly button ring doesn't hold the answer to happiness.
When you're feeling stuck, get out of bed and try to find something good in your day. You owe yourself that much.
