She's The Girl Who Doesn't Know What She's Doing With Her Life

She's The Girl Who Doesn't Know What She's Doing With Her Life And Is OK With That

Honestly, I have been struggling. I am a college student who has no friends, a wild childhood, and a broken heart.


Since I was old enough to watch "Legally Blonde," I have planned to go to college and become just like Elle Woods. However, I never intended to join the sorority Delta Nu was mimicking, but I ended up doing that. I also ended up going to the farthest college away from home that I could, and that has turned into a disaster. I guess I also met my Warner, Elle's ex-boyfriend, and he left just like in the movies (Minus the whole needing a more serious girl, I was too serious)

I had always planned for college to be where I make memories and find myself. In high school, I focused on school work so much that I became a robot. So far, I have made a lot of memories, some are good, but a lot are bad. I am not a pessimist, but these experiences have made me realize that I have been too idealistic when I planned for college. I do not want to give up and drop my first semester, but is my mental health less important?

I may not be sure about what my purpose in life is, or know what I am going to do with my degree, but that is OK. It is very common for first-year students to lose focus because of the many obstacles they face, such as distance and class curriculum. Sometimes things will not go your way, but the added baggage will just make you stronger. However, once it makes you weak and overwhelmed, ask others for help or just let them in.

The best thing you can do when you are overwhelmed is to seek help because isolating yourself will create more issues. I know asking for help can make you feel pathetic, but in everyone else's eyes, you are incredibly strong. Take a breath and focus on the daily goals you need to complete and keep yourself busy when you do not have any work. Sometimes you need to fake it until you make it. Do not give up on yourself by working on your mental health.

Maturing and fighting for your dreams, instead of dwelling on the things you cannot change is the better option because the latter when negatively affect your mental health. It will cause much more pain for yourself if you miss out on accomplishing your goals and making memories. It will cause much more pain because there is a mechanism in everyone's brain that forces them to focus on their missed opportunities over the decisions they made in the past.

Change is a good thing. Not knowing what you want to do with your life is OK. You are too young to understand what you want to do with your life. However, you need to make sure you are doing something because if you just lie around and give up, you will become a shell of yourself.

Take a breath, you have this. You are in control of your future, and you can do whatever satisfies your wants and needs. You will love again. You will find yourself. You will figure everything out. It all takes time so do not rush it because you will ruin it for yourself. Do not give up.

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When You Make A Girl An Aunt, You Change Her World In All The Best Ways

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest girl in the world.


My brother and his wife recently blessed our family with the sweetest bundle of joy on planet earth. OK, I may be a little bias but I believe it to be completely true. I have never been baby crazy, but this sweet-cheeked angel is the only exception. I am at an age where I do not want children yet, but being able to love on my nephew like he is my own is so satisfying.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a very protective person.

From making sure the car seat is strapped in properly before every trip, to watching baby boy breathe while he sleeps, you'll never meet someone, besides mommy and daddy of course, who is more concerned with the safety of that little person than me.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her a miniature best friend.

There is something about an aunt that is so fun. An aunt is a person you go to when you think you're in trouble or when you want something mom and dad said you couldn't have. An aunt is someone who takes you to get ice cream and play in the park to cool down after having a temper tantrum. I can't wait to be the one he runs to.

When you make a girl an aunt, she gets to skip on the difficulty of disciplining.

Being an aunt means you get to be fun. Not to say I wouldn't correct my nephew if he were behaving poorly, but for the most part, I get to giggle and play and leave the hard stuff for my brother.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her the best listening ears.

As of right now I only listen to the sweet coos and hungry cries but I am fully prepared to listen to all the problems in his life in the future.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the best advice giver.

By the time my nephew needs advice, hopefully, I will have all of my life lessons perfected into relatable stories.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a number-one fan

Anything you do in life sweet boy, I will be cheering you on. I already know you are going to do great things.

When you make a girl an aunt, she learns what true love is.

The love I have for my nephew is so pure. Its the love that is just there. I don't have to choose to show love every day, I don't have to forgive, I don't have to worry if it is reciprocated, it is just there.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest person in the world.

I cannot wait to watch my precious nephew grow into the amazing person that I know he is going to be.

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4 Things I Wish High School Me Knew

Every day has a purpose.


People don't give high school enough credit for having the ability to shape your life. It can build you or it can break you and often times there is no in between. As I enter into my senior year of college I have reflected a lot on my college career and how it really has been the best years of my life up to this point, but I know that without a doubt my life would have been so different in I would have known these things as a high schooler.

1. Your life is valuable

But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved. And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, in order that in the coming ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness to us in Christ Jesus. - Ephesians 2:4-7

2. You aren't defined by your singleness. 

Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires. - Song of Solomon 2:7

4. You aren't going to fit in

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. - Romans 12:2

4. Your clothes aren't going to fit forever, don't spend all of your money on them 

Then he said to them, "Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; life does not consist in an abundance of possessions." - Luke 12:15

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