5 Things to Remember When You're Stressed, Low, Or When Nothing is Going Right

5 Things to Remember When You're Stressed, Low, Or When Nothing is Going Right

Life is a steel-toed boot that will kick you when you're already down, but its up to you to put up a fight back.


Sometimes it feels like the world is fighting against you in a thousand different ways. Whether the person you're crushing on has neglected you, your family issues have escalated, or your mental health is being tested, it feels like you're surrounded by swords at all sides, and one wrong move and you're skewered.

There are only so many things you can tell yourself to fight the onslaught of life's jabs. However, there are a few reminders that I use to feel better, and you can use them if you find them helpful too.



As much as it hurts or as stressed as you are, you are alive. You are okay. Breathe to remember that, and so you don't pass out. As long as you breathe, even if you're crying, you'll feel a little better. Slowing your heart rate is a great first step to calming yourself down.

Switch thoughts; think of all the good things in your life.


You don't have to believe in the divine to remember how lucky you are. Think of every person who loves you, every good thing you've ever experienced, every bout of good luck you've ever had. Just simmer with that for a minute, and realize there are greater things in life ahead than the bad things happening right now. There are more important moments ahead of you, and you are not facing the end of the world.

If you need to, talk it out with someone. 


While it could be the hardest part of the whole situation, there's always someone there for you. A therapist, your parents, friends, anyone -- you can talk to these people just to get things off your chest, for advice, anything. You are never truly alone, and there are always options when you're feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or down. Communicating how you feel, verbalizing your emotions, can sometimes be the answer for people. It depends on the person.

Take time for yourself. 


Not everyone can deal with talking it out at first. Some people need to be alone to rationalize the issues at hand. There's nothing wrong with that either, but don't shut yourself out of people's lives for the sake of your own. If they truly care, they'll respect that you need space and give you what you need. In this reflective time, don't start blaming people or blaming yourself. Objectively look at the situation and make an unbiased, Switzerland-like conclusion.

Never forget that you are great.


You are an amazing person, inside and out. No matter the circumstance, you are strong for handling it. You are a rolling stone, and you will get through this turmoil. Never forget your worth or your own happiness, and how it definitely matters more than another's.

Whether these reminders work for you or not, know that you are not alone. You can find help if you need it or rationalize it in your own time by yourself. You are a wonderful person, and I'm sorry for whatever you're going through. No one truly knows how one feels until they walk in your shoes. Just don't be afraid to let someone borrow your sneakers.

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11 Things Psychology Majors Hear That Drive Them Crazy

No pun intended.

We've all been there. You're talking to a new acquaintance, or a friend of your parents, or whoever. And then, you get the dreaded question.

"So what are you studying in school?"

Cue the instant regret of picking Psychology as your major, solely for the fact that you are 99.9% likely to receive one of the slightly comical, slightly cliche, slightly annoying phrases listed below. Don't worry though, I've included some responses for you to use next time this comes up in conversation. Because it will.

Quick side note, these are all real-life remarks that I've gotten when I told people I was a psych major.

Here we go.

1. So are you, like, analyzing me right now?

Well, I wasn't. But yeah. Now I am.

2. Ugh so jealous! You picked the easy major.

"Lol" is all I have to say to this one. I'm gonna go write my 15-page paper on cognitive impairment. You have fun with your five college algebra problems, though!

3. So can you tell me what you think is wrong with me? *Shares entire life story*

Don't get me wrong; I love listening and helping people get through hard times. But we can save the story about how one time that one friend said that one slightly rude comment to you for later.

4. Well, s**t, I have to be careful what I say around you.

Relax, pal. I couldn't diagnose and/or institutionalize you even if I wanted to.

5. OMG! I have the perfect first client for you! *Proceeds to vent about ex-boyfriend or girlfriend*

Possible good response: simply nod your head the entire time, while actually secretly thinking about the Ben and Jerry's carton you're going to go home and demolish after this conversation ends.

6. So you must kind of be like, secretly insane or something to be into Psychology.

Option one: try and hide that you're offended. Option two: just go with it, throw a full-blown tantrum, and scare off this individual, thereby ending this painful conversation.

7. Oh. So you want to be a shrink?

First off, please. Stop. Calling. Therapists. Shrinks. Second, that's not a psych major's one and only job option.

8. You know you have to go to grad school if you ever want a job in Psychology.

Not completely true, for the record. But I am fully aware that I may have to spend up to seven more years of my life in school. Thanks for the friendly reminder.

9. So you... want to work with like... psychopaths?

Let's get serious and completely not-sarcastic for a second. First off, I take personal offense to this one. Having a mental illness does not classify you as a psycho, or not normal, or not deserving of being treated just like anyone else on the planet. Please stop using a handful of umbrella terms to label millions of wonderful individuals. It's not cool and not appreciated.

10. So can you, like, read my mind?

It actually might be fun to say yes to this one. Try it out and see what happens. Get back to me.

11. You must be a really emotional person to want to work in Psychology.

Psychology is more than about feeling happy, or sad, or angry. Psychology is about understanding the most complex thing to ever happen to us: our brain. How it works the way it does, why it works the way it does, and how we can better understand and communicate with this incredibly mysterious, incredibly vast organ in our tiny little skull. That's what psychology is.

So keep your head up, psychology majors, and don't let anyone discourage you about choosing, what is in my opinion, the coolest career field out there. The world needs more people like us.

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