No matter what your "daddy issues" look like, I do hope that whatever the reason was, that you know you are so loved and cherished, even if it's not by your father. And to the girls aching because their daddy is no longer on earth for Father's Day, I hope you know he is so so proud of you. God always picks the best ones first, even though that is hard to swallow sometimes.
1. To the girls who lost their fathers:
I am so sorry, my heart breaks for you. I can't imagine the pain you are going through. I don't have many words of advice because I have never gone through what you're going through, but I pray you know he's watching over you and watching you grow into a marvelous woman, he's so proud of you.
2. To the girls whose dads come and go in their lives like a revolving door:
I am right there with you, a phone call or a text every two weeks is proof of my fathers' inability to commit. It sucks, it truly does. The one thing that has always hurt me the most is when I see girls out to dinner with their dads, I've always wanted that relationship, I've always wanted him to to be someone who didn't have one foot out of the door as soon as he walked in. I went through a long phase where I cried over everything regarding him, seriously, ask my mom. It was bad. Now, I just get angry at the thought of someone manipulating a relationship to fit their own agenda. Although I still get sad, I still hurt. I still find myself wondering why he didn't want to be apart of everything my life has to offer. He tells me he's proud of me and it goes in one ear and out the other, because how could you be proud of someone you don't even know?
3. To the girls who get told "you need to call your father, its Father's Day":
You don't need to call him. Don't feel guilty if you don't. It is not your job to praise a man who is less than deserving. It is okay to focus on your health and do what is best for you. Though he is your father biologically, it takes a real man to be a dad.
4. To the girls whose dad is present but not emotionally there:
I don't visit my father much, but when I do, this applies. Its like he's there but his mind is anywhere but there. I find myself having conversations with him and him lazily nodding while looking at his phone, or sometimes he'd be so zoned out while scrolling through Facebook that he wouldn't even hear me trying to have a conversation with him. I've had many people try to tell me I needed to mend our broken relationship because I was the one holding it back. I've never had the right words to explain why I can't fix it. There are no words to fix a relationship that was supposed to be one of the most valuable relationships in my life.
