Open a new tab and go to Google's homepage, then type in, "fangirls," but don't search anything yet. Look at your suggestions: "fangirls ruin everything," "fangirls be like," and "fangirls are annoying." Now, let's get more specific; type in "fangirls are." Look at your options now. It's just a list of demeaning adjectives: annoying, scary, stupid, pathetic, the worst, crazy, worse than fanboys, creepy, and ugly. Now get even more specific and type in "fangirls should."

You're going to get one result:

"Fangirls should die."

Look, I get that there are fans who say creepy things to and about people. I've read about it. I've glared at false screenshots and I've wasted plenty of time reading fake Wikipedia articles, but that does not define an entire group of people, and it's not only girls either. I've seen lots of similar stuff from grown men about actresses and singers that make my stomach churn.

If you google the definition of "fangirl," it's going to tell you that the term is derogatory, and that it is "an obsessive female fan."

If you search the term on Urban Dictionary, you get a similar definition, and the other 119 listed below only get worse.

I'm not surprised female fans have gotten turned into a joke, but there are so many problems with trivializing someone's love for something that it's difficult to know where to begin.

One of the quickest ways to introduce young girls to the idea that they are all in a competition against each other is telling them they all belong to one, rabid group of obsessed fans - and that they don't have a choice in the matter. If you want to force them to fight amongst each other, to corral them into groups and internalize the idea that that's their only significance in their devotion to something important to them - tell them they are fangirls.

Using the example of bands such as My Chemical Romance or Black Veil Brides, I've seen for myself the competition to be the craziest fangirl, the competition that ensues utter chaos among people who should otherwise bond over their mutual love for these bands, and it's sad. It's just another tool of internalized misogyny, teaching girls and women to hate each other. What's worse, is that it also teaches women they must compete against one another all for the attention of men, if we're still going by the aforementioned examples. It teaches us that our self-worth relies on how much we love someone else.

It also implies that we don't count. It implies that we, as big-time supporters of something important to us, are invalid, that we don't matter in the long run, and on the extreme level, that our lives are not in our own hands, that we are not in control.

Chris Motionless of the band Motionless in White, said it best in his blog: "NO. I did not save your life. NO.. band X, Y or Z did not save your life. IF in fact you were on the brink of any self harming action… it was YOU who pulled yourself from the ledge. You saved your life, You are the hero."

This message is so important because it restates the idea that our lives are in our hands. Even the line, "Band A saved my life," has started to turn into an attention-grabber in this senseless competition to become the "best fangirl." Motionless further comments on this in the rest of his blog post.

It's not young girls' fault that they have a certain mentality to be noticed. I lay no blame on them. It's simply not our fault. It's this culture of competition forced upon us. It's what we're taught. It's what is shoved down our throats, ingrained in our heads, and sealed in our minds. We're told we're a joke at the same time as we're told we don't matter unless we're noticed.

The problem with the term "fangirl" is that it separates us from the rest of the crowd, alienating us, left to dawdle with our false competition. It pits us against each other in our own group of what should be friendly faces, and pits us against other groups (take this video for example). It invalidates us. It overlooks the strength in the love and passion we have for something that matters to us.

Luke Brooks, a member of the Youtube comedy group, "the Janoskians," also said it best: "Fan girls should get paid and be a legit job, you girls do far more promotion than any money could buy, such powerful people you are." Thank you, Luke. It's time people learn how important they are, especially to themselves.