When it happened, there was no other emotion I could feel but a sad emptiness. That’s normal, most break ups end that way. After the emotional turmoil was over with and the picking up the pieces of everything that was left was finished, I knew my life just was beginning. I could look back and realize something.
That guy I was dating, his family was toxic. Now, everyone says that you should cut toxic people out of your life immediately. With me, that wasn’t the case. This toxicity got to fester for quite some time before it came to a stinging end. Love might be the most blinding force that the earth and life can offer us. I was so blinded that I couldn’t see that his family in no way what so ever supported us being together from the start of our relationship. Always being negative towards me and my goals and aspirations I shared with them. Never once appreciating me dropping everything I was doing to help out their child, due to them never doing the same as I once did for him.
There comes a point in your life where you should realize your mother is always right. At this point in my life, I still didn’t realize that. Now, looking back, I wish I had listened to her saying "He doesn’t care about you," "We’ve never met his family so they obviously don’t care about you and him being together too long," "Break up with him he doesn’t treat you the way I want a guy to treat you."
Being that young and stubborn and blinded, I thought forever was a given and life was golden, that mom was wrong, I was right, and his family just hadn’t warmed up to me yet. After some time, from what I’ve heard and gathered up from various people around is that his family convinced him that enough is enough and it’s ending now. Now with months past and looking back I can take a lot away from this.
1. Your mom is always right! She’s been there and done that. Listen to her you will thank her later!
2. Keep your guard up so you don’t become blinded but not too up that he gets offended.
3. The moment his family says something off or rude to you it may be time to evaluate what’s going on.
4. It’s okay to be hurt but remember that you are way better off without those people in your life.
5. Nothing lasts forever... Not even life itself.
His family ruined our relationship and there is no fixing it now but that’s okay and I’m thankful for their heartlessness. I wouldn’t want to be stuck with them for "forever" anyway.
