An Open Letter To A Failed Friendship

An Open Letter To A Failed Friendship

Hakuna matata.

Have you ever had a friendship so pure that you felt like Timon and Pumbaa from "The Lion King"? Has there ever been a time in your life with a friend that you knew someone had to be watching over you two, putting you together like magnets while creating Kodak moment after Kodak moment? Well, we had that, my friend. At this point, I should say, "Stranger, we had that."

For a couple of years now, I have held all the anger that I feel towards you, inside. From time to time, I find myself wondering about you, wondering if you are happy, if you found your Timon or maybe your Pumbaa. However, I am done being angry towards you. I am done holding all of this in. The best part about it is, I forgive you.

You were a great friend majority of the time. I had few complaints about you, something that if you had really paid attention to who I am, you would have realized how rare that is. There are few people that I have a few complaints about. This is not an open letter about my complaints, but rather a letter to say thanks. Thanks for being there for the things that you were there for. Regardless if you still feel as if you have to hate me, you must admit that we had a lot of fun.

This is not a pathetic plea begging you to forgive me, but this is just an attempt at being honest. I highly doubt that you or anyone you really know will read this. If and when someone does read this, they will probably think this is about them without any regard to you or your feelings. This is also not an attempt to say sorry for being the friend that I am or for not being the friend that I could be. It's just time to let you know where I'm at.

Since our friendship ended, I have found people who love me. These people are quite possibly the best people I am ever going to meet in life. They are so inspirational and admirable in every single way imaginable. For the record, at one point in our short friendship together, you were in the same boat with them. I use to want to be just like you. Now, I have realized that I am who I am and that will not change. Surprisingly, when I quit being around you, I started to notice that I like who I am and that other people like who I am too.

I hope you have a wonderful life. If one day, you decide that you don't absolutely hate me, I will be here to talk. That, of course, would mean that you would have to admit, that it wasn't just my fault our friendship ended and I am not sure if you are capable of that. However, in the event that there is no one to talk to, I will be here because I know the person that you were, and the person that you can be.

A friend recently told me you were married and are expecting a baby in a few short months. While I may not be telling you in person, congratulations. I sincerely mean that. Being a mom is one of the best things that will ever happen to you. I hope that you enjoy it as much as I do. You'll be great, children has always been your calling.

I also hope that in a few years, you can see a little bit of us in your children. If you have a daughter, I hope that her best friend reminds you of me. Regardless of how our friendship ended, regardless of how short it seemed, you were honestly one of the most wonderful people I could have ever met. You, unintentionally, taught me two of the greatest life lessons ever. I would have never learned them if I hadn't lost you as a friend.

First, perfect things will never last. I mean, even Vada had to say bye to Thomas J. That was the saddest movie to watch, but going through losing you as a friend, and still knowing you were going about life, was hard. I still think about you from time to time, and I honestly wish you nothing but the best.

The second life lesson is a little more valuable than the first. It's to never take things for granted, especially people. If anyone would have told me ten years ago, that our friendship would be over before we even graduated high school, I would have said they were crazy. You meant more to me than you will ever know. Maybe we could be friends later on in life, but until then, hakuna matata.

Cover Image Credit: Kayla Davis

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"All booze is good booze, unless it's weak booze."

Fact: If you watch "New Girl," you love Nick Miller.

You can't help it. He's an adorable, lovable mess of a man and you look forward to seeing him and his shenanigans each week. While living the infamous and incomparable life of Nick Miller, and obviously Julius Pepperwood— he has learned many valuable laws of the land. And, although Nick refuses to learn anything from anyone besides his mysterious, old Asian friend Tran, he does have a few lessons he'd like to teach us.

Here are 35 facts of life according to 'Nick Milla Nick Milla':

1. Drinking keeps you healthy.

"I'm not gonna get sick. No germ can live in a body that is 65% beer."

2. Dinosaurs never existed.

"I don't believe dinosaurs existed. I've seen the science. I don't believe it."

3. A paper bag is a bank.

"A bank is just a paper bag but with fancier walls."

4. Having sex is similar to delivering mail.

"I'm like a mailman, except instead of mail it's hot sex that I deliver."

5. Moonwalking is a foolproof way to get out of any awkward situation.

Jess (about Nick): "Now he won't even talk to me. I saw him this morning and he just panic moonwalked away from me. He does that sometimes."

6. Using a movie reference is also a great way.

Cece: "Come on, get up!"

Nick: "No, I don't dance. I'm from that town in "Footloose."

7. There's no reason to wash towels.

Nick: "I don’t wash the towel. The towel washes me. Who washes a towel?"

Schmidt: "You never wash your towel?"

Nick: "What am I gonna do? Wash the shower next? Wash a bar of soap?"

8. Exes are meant to be avoided at all costs (especially if/unless they're Caroline)

"I don't deal with exes, they're part of the past. You burn them swiftly and you give their ashes to Poseidon."

9. IKEA furniture is not as intimidating as it looks.

"I'm building you the dresser. I love this stuff. It's like high-stakes LEGOs."

10. You don't need forks if you have hands.

Jess: "That's gross. Get a fork, man."

Nick: "I got two perfectly good forks at the end of my arms!"

11. Sex has a very specific definition.

"It's not sex until you put the straw in the coconut."

12. Doors are frustrating.

"I will push if I want to push! Come on! I hate doors!"

13. All booze is good booze.

"Can I get an alcohol?"

14. ...unless it's weak booze.

"Schmidt, that is melon flavored liquor! That is 4-proof! That is safe to drink while you're pregnant!"

15. Writers are like pregnant women.

Jess: "You know what that sound is? It's the sound of an empty uterus."

Nick: "I can top that easily. I'm having a hard time with my zombie novel."

Jess: "Are you really comparing a zombie novel to my ability to create life?"

Nick: "I'm a writer, Jess. We create life."

16. All bets must be honored.

"There is something serious I have to tell you about the future. The name of my first-born child needs to be Reginald VelJohnson. I lost a bet to Schmidt."

17. Adele's voice is like a combination of Fergie and Jesus.

"Adele is amazing."

18. Beyoncé is extremely trustworthy.

"I'd trust Beyoncé with my life. We be all night."

19. Fish, on the other hand, are not.

“Absolutely not. You know I don’t trust fish! They breathe water. That's crazy!"

20. Bar mitzvahs are terrifying.

Schmidt: "It's a bar mitzvah!"

Nick: "I am NOT watching a kid get circumcised!"

21. are blueberries.

Jess: "So far, Nick Miller's list of fears is sharks, tap water, real relationships..."

Nick: "And blueberries."

22. Take your time with difficult decisions. Don't be rash.

Jess: "You care about your burritos more than my children, Nick?"

Nick: "You're putting me in a tough spot!"

23. Getting into shape is not easy.

"I mean, I’m not doing squats or anything. I’m trying to eat less donuts."

24. We aren't meant to talk about our feelings.

"If we needed to talk about feelings, they would be called talkings."

25. We're all a little bit too hard on ourselves.

"The enemy is the inner me."

26. Freezing your underwear is a good way to cool off.

"Trust me, I'm wearing frozen underpants right now and I feel amazing. I'm gonna grab some old underpants and put a pair into the freezer for each of you."

27. Public nudity is normal.

"Everbody has been flashed countless times."

28. Alcohol is a cure-all.

"You treat an outside wound with rubbing alcohol. You treat an inside wound with drinking alcohol."

29. Horses are aliens.

"I believe horses are from outer-space."

30. Turtles should actually be called 'shell-beavers.'

Jess: "He calls turtles 'shell-beavers."

Nick: "Well, that's what they should be called."

31. Trench coats are hot.

"This coat has clean lines and pockets that don't quit, and it has room for your hips. And, when I wear it, I feel hot to trot!"

32. Sparkles are too.

"Now, my final bit of advice, and don't get sensitive on this, but you've got to change that top it's terrible and you've got to throw sparkles on. Sparkles are in. SPARKLES ARE IN."

33. Introspection can lead to a deeper knowing of oneself.

"I'm not convinced I know how to read. I've just memorized a lot of words."

34. It's important to live in the moment.

"I know this isn't gonna end well but the middle part is gonna be awesome."

35. Drinking makes you cooler.

Jess: "Drinking to be cool, Nick? That's not a real thing."

Nick: "That's the only thing in the world I know to be true."

Cover Image Credit: Hollywood Reporter

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