My sophomore year of college, my roommate had this guy come over and help her hang her curtains. Afterward, he stayed around and talked to us for awhile. When he left I told my roommate I thought he was really cute, and she needed to bring him around more often. He kept hanging out with us and what I first thought was attraction actually just turned into me realizing I had just met my best friend. After about a month of hanging out with him one-on-one I asked him to move in with us. I had a lot of expectations that I would soon realize were not reality.
1. Expectation: He’ll give you his honest opinion on your appearance.
Reality: Lol, girl, he won’t.
I quickly realized something very simple: they don’t care/they don’t see.
If he’s living with you, odds are he isn’t attracted to you in a way that is going to allow him to tell you if your butt looks okay in those jeans. He doesn’t care, and he doesn’t look at you that way. Even though you really want “a guys’ perspective”, it’s just probably not going to work out that way.
2. Expectation: You’ll meet their friends and find a cute boy to date.
Reality: His friends will come visit and pass out in your floor and throw up on your textbooks and you’ll change your mind about anything you previously thought about said person.
If his friends come to visit and stay with you, I can guarantee you you’ll never look at them in the same way.
3. Expectation: If he can cook, he’ll cook for you.
As much as I wish this was true, I think guys only cook for women if they want to date them or impress them.
Reality: He’ll only cook for you if you invite “that one cute friend of yours” over for dinner so they can taste his cooking.
So he probably won’t cook for you as much as you think he will. Maybe the first month, but after the “honeymoon” phase of living together, McDonald’s becomes dinner of choice.
4. Expectation: His friends will think you’re hot and want to get with you.
Reality: You become his friends "mom," DD, bro, and "one of the guys."
You’ll start picking them up from campus, helping them with their homework, hanging out with them on your own time, giving them medicine, mothering them. You basically become a mom. Then all his friends will introduce you to their friends, and even they will call you mom.
5. Expectation: Your parents will never let you live with a boy and will most definitely not like him.
Reality: They’ll love him more than you.
After my parents let me move in with my guy roommate, I assumed they would just kind of tolerate him, but they ended up liking him more than me sometimes. Calling to check in on him, calling him when I don’t answer the phone, and asking me when we’re “getting married” (btw, NEVER MOM!!!!).
6. Expectation: He’ll do all the things you do in movies like “Man of Honor."
Face masks, pedicures, regular lunch dates, etc.
Reality: He won’t. He just won’t.
He doesn’t want to talk about desserts and what you’re going to wear when you go out this Thursday with your friends to that new restaurant everyone’s been talking about. He doesn’t care. He might do face masks sometimes, though. Skin care is skin care.
7. Expectation: You can cuddle on the couch when you don’t feel well or you’re sad.
Reality: He won’t let you do that. He doesn’t want to do that, ever.
He won’t want to be touched and most definitely not hugged, except on very very very rare occasions. Or if something is seriously wrong with you. Like if you fall off of a curb and sprain your ankle.
Even though you might not get the guy/girl best friend relationship like in the movies, you still have your best friend and that’s all that really matters.
