Everything happens for a reason. I'm a firm believer in that. Even in the moment, you may seem like you're going through hell. However, when your hell is all said and done, I'm sure you feel so much better.
I've had such a different outlook on life after going through so many different things, my outlook went from "Why the heck am I going through this?!?" To now my motto being, "This is teaching me something, a lesson that is also a blessing." I read a quote a while back from a journal that my former best friend had gotten me because she believed I was ungrateful. The quote stated "Everything that happens, including humiliations, embarrassments, misfortunes, all has been given like clay, like material for one's art. One must accept it." Part of life is really how you perceive it and another part of life is also learning from things that happen to you. When I was younger, I guess you could say I started forming resentment against my family because of my childhood. As I got older, I lashed out on my parents and took out my hurt and frustration against them. I rebelled and dealt with my hurt and pain in unhealthy ways. Until I turned 18 and I decided that enough was enough, I was tired of arguing with my mother and not talking to my father. I decided to get therapy, and in turn, express my hurt and pain with my amazing therapist. I learned that my childhood taught me that there was probably generational trauma and generational sexism that it was my turn to end. I experienced a childhood I never would want my future children to experience. I decided that I could no longer bottle that hurt and pain up and decided that I was doing this for me. In some way, I probably have healed the generations before me. I know that I'm not fully where I want to be, but I have come so far in my journey of life. Even though changing your mindset may be simple, it's probably the best thing that will ever happen to you. Life with always throw you those lemons, it's up to you to decide whether you want to make lemon juice or lemonade.