Everyone has those few people, or maybe just one, that you seem to regret ever allowing to come into your life. You say they were toxic, cruel, or just not right. Maybe all of that is true, but think about if they hadn’t have come into your life? Would you be as strong, motivated, or mature as you are today? I can give you that answer right now – probably not.
Every single person that comes into your life was put there for a reason; whether it be good, bad, big, or small. The impact people make in your life helps to modify who you become as a person and mold your personality. For every heartbreak and every tear shed you are growing, even if it doesn’t feel like it.
For instance, say you have a one-night-stand and end up pregnant. Whether or not the man stays in you and your babies’ life, your life will be changed forever. You now have a child to care for and to love until you leave this world; an unconditional type of love, and an inseparable bond forever.
Maybe it wasn’t such a good idea to have that hook-up with that man, but do you seriously regret it? If you hadn’t done that you wouldn’t have such a big blessing to call your child, and a child definitely changes who you are as a person.
People come into your life and hurt you – it happens; that’s part of it. What you do when you get crushed is what defines you. That is what makes you the amazing person you are. So if those people had never come into your life and never hurt you, how could you grow into an improved person? You can’t. You learn by going through the process yourself, and that is what you must do. You must overcome the obstacles in order to create your own self.
Why should we handle the things people throw our way? Because they make us who we are.
You must take the lessons and learn from them; let them better you. The lessons learned can turn you into a greater person only if you allow them to. If you are always stuck on how bad things were you can never move on from that rough spot, and will never truly learn what was meant for you to learn.
The best words I can pick out of the thoughts scattered in my mind is to never regret letting people in. It was bound to happen, and you have got to learn your lessons one way or another.
When you look back and think “Why did I do that?” just remember that you were a different person at the time and if you hadn’t done it you wouldn’t know not to do it in the future. This is why I say embrace anything that you do, and if you believe it will make you happy then don’t hesitate. Love fiercely, live for now, and always – always – do for yourself, not for others.
