Once I Was Screamed At When I Told Somebody To Breath Deeply

I Was Screamed At For Telling Someone To 'Take A Deep Breath' And The Next Day, I Become A Certified Yoga Instructor

Perhaps people will now take me more seriously when I suggest some deep breathing?


Emotions are such interesting factors that can highly influence the way that we behave. When you take the time to become mindful of your emotions as they arise, it is actually a really insightful experience in that you are more aware of when your emotions are clouding your ability to make decisions. Strong emotions can easily take control of your entire body in ways that can either be a help or a hindrance. Regardless of the positive or negative outcome, it is still important that you are aware of your emotions.

Strong emotions on either end of the spectrum can prohibit you from thinking to the best of your ability. Can you recall a moment when you were so overcome with ecstatic joy or pure anger that when you tried to focus on something else, your thoughts were filtered by the way that you were feeling? This is completely normal and happens to everyone frequently, so that is nothing to worry about. However, an issue arises when you lack the ability to break away from those feelings.

You are not your emotions. The acknowledgment of how you are feeling is a necessary step in learning how to deal with whatever emotion is plaguing you at the moment; however, completely embodying the way you are feeling can be restricting as it closes your mind from remaining open to any outside perspective.

Once, I had a friend who was very upset and relaying those inner thoughts and feelings to me in a manner which was not considerate of how I would be receiving their current state. (That is not the point, however, it did put me in a difficult position as I let them continue to erratically expel their negativity.) Regardless, it was quite apparent how their emotions were inhibiting the effectiveness of their communication choices. This puts the person on the receiving end in a challenging position when attempting to figure out what to do. How long do you allow somebody to be a victim of their unmanaged emotions when you can clearly see that they are not only negatively impacting themselves but also sending that energy into the lives of others?

In my situation, I quickly and calmly said, "You need to calm down; just take a deep breath." Eyes flashing with hardly enough time to think about what I had said, they screamed, "No! Don't tell me what to do!"

Obviously, they heard that there were words coming out of my mouth, but did they truly hear what I was saying?

It was at this moment that I truly realized how important social-emotional learning skills are. We all get upset sometimes; the negative feelings of anger, frustration, and despair are inevitable and normal to endure. What is most important is how we learn to handle these negative feelings when they enter our minds. This scenario I experienced demonstrated an eye-opening experience for me; even in my calm manner, the suggestion of something as simple as taking a deep breath infuriated this upset person even more.

I was puzzled at the moment of their reaction and I must admit that I am still puzzled even to this day as I reflect on their response to me. Perhaps I would understand the attitude-filled retaliation if I had suggested something outrageous in a tone that was also filled with anger; however, that was not the case.

Consequently, I did not have a reply to their response. I understood that the negative emotions had completely taken over this person's body and mind and that they were merely trying to alleviate their own suffering by expelling this negativity into the universe; this is not an excuse, rather it is an interpretation in an attempt for me to explain this irrational behavior. I tried my best to not absorb that energy; although, it is super challenging and most certainly changed my perspective not only about that specific individual but also about the importance of emotional regulation and human beings in general.

I realized that there was nothing I could do or say to help them; it is an intimidating notion that we are responsible for our own emotions, yet while we are experiencing strong thoughts and feelings, it is sometimes not easy to combat them. This is where social-emotional learning skills coupled with mindfulness prove to be crucial skills to have. Merely knowing about these skills is ineffective unless they are implemented in your daily life; this is when they prove to be the most impactful.

Ironically, this experience occurred the night before I was already enrolled to complete a yoga teacher training program. I must say, spending 20 hours practicing yoga, learning how to build a sequence of flowing poses, and meeting other interested yogis was definitely invigorating especially after the last evening I just had. Throughout this training, it was brought to my attention how grounding the breath can be; we are always breathing regardless of our awareness of doing so. When moments of hysteria bubble up, turning your awareness inward to the ebb and flow of your breath is helpful in reminding you that you are alive and present.

Sometimes, it is useful to have this reminder as we experience moments of discomfort. Sometimes, it is useful to have this reminder as we experience moments of excitement. And sometimes it is useful to have this reminder as we experience moments of just ordinary day-to-day life.

Thus, cultivating a mindset that allows you to feel any type of emotion as it commences, but then having the ability to remain aware of what you are enduring is important for your personal wellbeing and also how others will perceive you. Please allow yourself to feel your emotions mindfully at the moment, reflect thoughtfully once the moment has passed, and then pursue any step that you believe is necessary in order to forgive the negative actions you may have taken during that emotional moment.

And, please, always return to following your breath. It truly is helpful in bringing your awareness back to the moment instead of allowing your mind to fall victim to other factors, whether those are external or internal.

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This Full-Body Yoga Workout That Will Leave You Sore The Next Day

Who says yoga isn't a good workout?

Too often people think of yoga as a hippie-dippy meditation practice but ignore the benefits it provides for your body as well. Depending on the type, yoga can focus on flexibility, energy, meditation, stamina, deep breathing, weight loss and strength training. The workout I’ve put together focuses on the strength training aspect of yoga that will help you build lean muscle.

To get the full benefits from the workout I suggest repeating the sequence of movements 2 more times for a total of 3 sets. It’s also important to try to keep a steady rhythm as you repeat movements to really work your muscles.

1. Downdog to Child’s Pose x10

This move is just meant to stretch your muscles and get you warmed up for the workout so you will likely need to do other stretches as well to target other muscles. Although I suggest at least 10 reps, it’s really on an individual basis, so whenever you feel stretched and ready you can begin the workout.

2. Warrior 2 Lifts x10 each side

In this exercise, you should try to get as low as you can in the warrior pose and also make sure to not raise your shoulders to your ears in the lift.

3. Goddess Squats x10

The primary thing to remember when doing this move is to point your toes out and use as wide a stance as you can while squatting.

4. Crescent Lunges x10 each side

Your first inclination while doing a crescent will probably be to straighten your back leg as you lean into the lunge but it’s important to dip your back knee lower into the lunge.

5. Chair Pose 15 sec hold x3

It’s not about having a perfect 90-degree angle as if you were sitting on a chair but it is about making sure you feel the burn in your legs if you don’t feel anything try to sit lower in the move.

6. Spinal Balance Crunch x10 each side

This is a good hybrid between a spinal balance pose and a crunch to feel it in your core. Make sure to keep a straight back during this move.

7. Downdog to Beast x10

The key here is to keep your feet in the same position so that when you go into Beast you are on your toes and your lower leg is parallel to the ground but not touching it.

8. Leg Raise to Warrior 3 x10

This should be one fluid movement as you move from a leg raise into Warrior 3 while keeping your chest up.

9. Side Fierce x10 each side

This move has the same leg position as the chair pose but you bend at your waist side to side, so that your elbow is pressed against the opposite leg.

10. Eagle Squat x10

This is a pose that requires a lot of balance. You essentially wrap one leg around the other and intertwine your arms to do a very mild squat. If you’re having a hard time balancing during this move, you can make it less demanding by putting your feet close together and doing a squat.

11. Downdog to Child’s Pose x5

Use this move to cool down and feel free to rest in child’s pose for 10 seconds each rep.

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5 Real Benefits Of Practicing Yoga

Find your inner zen.


I have always been an advocate for yoga. It's an escape from the everyday stresses of college, work, or just life in general. There are many benefits to practicing yoga, but here's a list of five of them!

1. Flexibility

The more you practice yoga, the more flexible you will become. Stretching your body in new ways will allow it to move in new ways. Watch out because you'll become the next human pretzel!

2. Strength


Who would've known that the more you practice yoga, the stronger you will become? Building strength is one of the key elements of yoga. Yoga requires your arms, legs, and body as a whole to be pushed to the limit, which in turn makes you even stronger.

3. Mental health

Yoga requires you to create harmony between your body and your mind. Mental health improves tremendously after doing yoga because of this harmony. It helps to reduce stress and improve mental clarity, which all in all improves your mental health.

4. Posture


Staying on a continuous schedule of yoga can help improve your posture tremendously. You won't have as much back pain, and you'll have more motivation to accomplish more tasks!

5. Abs and obliques

Yes, as crazy as it sounds, you can get abs from doing yoga. Some yoga positions make you work your abs and obliques, which help make your abs look more like the ones above!

To find a place to do yoga, check out gyms and rec centers near you. Also, you can do yoga in your own home! There are many Youtube channels and websites that have yoga tips and tricks, and some that have full-length classes online! Some of my favorites are "Yoga With Adrienne" and "PopSugar Fitness."

Happy yoga-ing!!

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