I remember as a child hearing my mother occasionally say we had a "dysfunctional" family. At the time, I didn't really know what she meant, as in my mind, I had the perfect family. However, as I grew older, I understood what she meant. Within my family, their was definitely issues and fighting was a norm within my siblings and my parents. However, I never thought my family being "dysfunctional" was a bad thing, and I saw it more as my family was perfect in our own dysfunctional way.
Every family is facing their own issues.
I know at the time that my mom thought only our family was dysfunctional while other perfect families existed out there, but as I grew older, I found that their was no difference between a "dysfunctional" and a "perfect" family. Do you really think their are families out there that have NEVER had an argument, NEVER gotten under each other's skin? My guess is that it's pretty unlikely. I used to observe the behavior of my friends' families, and I never found a single friend who didn't complain about their family or argue with their siblings, making me realize just how normal it was for a family to be "dysfunctional".
Every family is "dysfunctional" in their own way.
I truly believe every family faces issues, but I feel as though these issues make you and your family who you are. Every little argument you've had with your parents or sibling rivalry you have faced has made you who you are. The issues each family faces makes them unique in their own way.
Every family is also "perfect" in their own way.
Each family also has strengths that lie within them. For one, you have a bond unique to only your family that no one else can understand. You may have issues, but you also have traits special to your family that make you stand out, and you'll always have each other's backs at the end of the day. Sure, it's funny when you call your sister stupid, but if someone else outside your family dare to do that, well, there's gonna be trouble to pay.
So, every family is "perfect" in their own "dysfunctional" way.
Nowadays, I truly believe I was given the perfect family, and I wouldn't want my family to be any other way. Jealously, ignorance, and hatred are all traits that lie within my family. However, support, kindness, and love also exist in my family giving it a perfect balance. No matter how much my siblings and I fight, if you even dare to mess with one of them, I promise I will be the first person you have to go through.
