Embracing Singleness

Embracing Singleness

I often wonder, "why not me?" and I'm sure every other single girl out there is with me on that one.


Far too often I have thought of singleness as a curse.

Far too often, I have been asked by family members why I haven't gotten a boyfriend yet.

Far too often, us girls let those thoughts and questions into our minds, and we, in turn, begin to question what's wrong with us.

However, throughout my college career, I have learned that while I have always thought of being single as a curse, it is just a time for real, raw growth.

I am in no way dissing those who are in healthy, life-giving relationships. I know that there are a time and season for everything, and everyone's path is different; mine has just happened to be a long road of singleness.

Coming to college, I imagined my time in school to go something like this; move to my campus, settle in, find some friends, and then find the love of my life.

I know, cliche.

However, when my freshman year of college didn't play out exactly like that, I began to feel a little ashamed subconsciously. I saw some of my friends beginning to date guys and become serious with those they had already been talking to.

Sophomore year came, still no boyfriend.

Junior year came, still no boyfriend.

Senior year came, still no boyfriend.

Don't get me wrong; I am in no way idolize being in a relationship, I very much know who I am, however, when I saw a lot of the people around me in relationships I began to wonder, "why not me?".

While I have a solid group of friends, a strong family, and a stable relationship with The Lord, the thought would still subconsciously make its way to my brain.

However, I have learned to look at singleness as a blessing, and a period of growth for myself.

There will never be another time when I have as much freedom as I do now.

So, while I wait, I remember to embrace the state of life that I'm in at this very moment.

Singleness is not a curse, and it's time we embrace it as a blessing.

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When You Make A Girl An Aunt, You Change Her World In All The Best Ways

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest girl in the world.


My brother and his wife recently blessed our family with the sweetest bundle of joy on planet earth. OK, I may be a little bias but I believe it to be completely true. I have never been baby crazy, but this sweet-cheeked angel is the only exception. I am at an age where I do not want children yet, but being able to love on my nephew like he is my own is so satisfying.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a very protective person.

From making sure the car seat is strapped in properly before every trip, to watching baby boy breathe while he sleeps, you'll never meet someone, besides mommy and daddy of course, who is more concerned with the safety of that little person than me.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her a miniature best friend.

There is something about an aunt that is so fun. An aunt is a person you go to when you think you're in trouble or when you want something mom and dad said you couldn't have. An aunt is someone who takes you to get ice cream and play in the park to cool down after having a temper tantrum. I can't wait to be the one he runs to.

When you make a girl an aunt, she gets to skip on the difficulty of disciplining.

Being an aunt means you get to be fun. Not to say I wouldn't correct my nephew if he were behaving poorly, but for the most part, I get to giggle and play and leave the hard stuff for my brother.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her the best listening ears.

As of right now I only listen to the sweet coos and hungry cries but I am fully prepared to listen to all the problems in his life in the future.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the best advice giver.

By the time my nephew needs advice, hopefully, I will have all of my life lessons perfected into relatable stories.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a number-one fan

Anything you do in life sweet boy, I will be cheering you on. I already know you are going to do great things.

When you make a girl an aunt, she learns what true love is.

The love I have for my nephew is so pure. Its the love that is just there. I don't have to choose to show love every day, I don't have to forgive, I don't have to worry if it is reciprocated, it is just there.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest person in the world.

I cannot wait to watch my precious nephew grow into the amazing person that I know he is going to be.

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Goodbye School, Hello Real World

I'm ready for ya!


It's starting to hit me.

I've been in school, year after year, since kindergarten. Maybe even pre-school!

Now, I'm about to graduate with my bachelors in communication and I couldn't be more proud of myself. I'll say it. I often sugarcoat it or suppress it but d*mn it. I'm going to applaud myself. It was hard work. It took a lot of motivation, determination, (caffeine), and willpower to get to where I am today. I worked my ass off.

That being said, I can't help but think... What is life without due dates? What is life like without scrambling to turn in an assignment that's due at 11:59 PM? What is life like with actual sleep? Sleep? I don't know her.

Like I keep telling my boyfriend and my parents, I don't have it all figured out. At least not right now. But I will, and I'm in no rush to land my dream job right now. If anything, I want to take a year to myself. I want to travel. I want to sleep in if I d*mn well please! I want to read as many books as I want. I want to write till my fingers fall off (OK, maybe not that).

You get the jist.

I'm free. I can do and be whatever I want. And you know what? That's terrifying.

I'm lost. I've followed this structure for so long. Now what?

I don't have all the answers yet. But for now, at least right at this very moment, I'm so thankful to have been able to receive such an amazing education. And to be able to say I'm graduating with my bachelors in communication at 21 is an accomplishment in itself.

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