Singleness.
A season of life that most people don’t like being in.
When you’re single, it seems like you only see happy couples who love living life together. All these romance movies are coming out, you go to Olive Garden and you’re the only single in the midst of all the couples, you go to Walmart and see over 15 couples happily doing their shopping. You can’t even go to McDonald’s without seeing couples there eating. You feel like you can’t escape. Believe me, I’ve definitely been where you are and was SO sick of seeing couples but I have started to find the silver lining in embracing the single live.
I have a newfound peace in waiting for the man that God has planned for me rather than rushing His perfect plan. I’ve taken the time that I would usually take making myself look the way that society tells me I should look and turned it into time humbling myself before God and asking Him to open my eyes so that I love myself the way that He loves me, flaws and all. I have found that in the seasons of life that I embrace being single and just live life are the times that God works on me the most. It’s then that He reveals Himself to me because all of my focus is on Him and not boys who don’t show me what I’m worth.
When you finally accept that you’re fine with the single life and are genuinely happy for your friends when they get in relationships, you’ll cherish it when you do get into a relationship. You’ll see all your prayers were answered; you’ll finally accept that God’s plan is the best plan for you and that He knew what He was doing.
My advice for ladies who may be struggling with living the single life is very simple. Don’t rush your life. Don’t think that just because your friends are finding their "forever love" that you have to be as well. Don’t compare your love life to the “goals” that social media sets for us. Social media has too great of an impact on how we view our relationships in modern society. One last thing. Just live in the moment. Listen to your friends complain about their boyfriends, give relationship advice as best as you can. Don’t start comparing yourself to the other people who have significant others, because that’s just nonsense. God saw it was in His timing to give them their boyfriend.
Love yourself, friends, and just wait. Things will come when you least expect them to.
