Judging someone for their sexuality, sexual partners and preferences is a nasty trend we come to see when we enter adulthood, a.k.a college. However, there is more than meets the eye when it comes to who you love, what you love or how many people you've slept with. (Or not slept with).

As a smart, educated, open and accepting generation, sexuality is a big issue in society and we need to change that. Stereotypes these days are passed down to younger generations from the older generations, but also from our peers and ourselves.

NEWS FLASH: it doesn't matter who you love as long as you're happy, and it doesn't mean you're going to hell if you don't want to settle down with a guy - or girl - just because your parents, grandparents, community or church - say so. Love who you love and just have fun living the one life you get.

It doesn't matter how many sexual partners you have had! (This goes for all you college kids counting hookups and calling each other sl*ts.) Just because a young man has slept with 15 girls, does not mean he is: 1) a player, 2) good at what he does or 3) not a good guy.

Guys seem to have this understanding (in regards to social standards) that being with more girls than their best friend or roommate makes them the alpha male... or that girls can look at them and call them a player. Which may or may not be the case, but there is no way of knowing unless you get to know him.

Ladies, more than six partners does not make you a wh*re. Sometimes it's hard to accept the fact that you hooked up with someone and didn't stay with them, or maybe you don't care! That is no ones business but your own. If you think that lying and saying you have only gotten in bed with two guys is going to get you your next man, you're only kidding yourself because they WILL find out anyway. Be honest! If you LOVE sex, THAT'S OKAY!

Slut-shaming and condemning sexuality shouldn't be a topic of gossip for your roommates or friends about their new 'bae'. You should be able to get to know someone and love them for them, not how many sex partners they have had, or their sexual preference.

Numbers don't matter, but safety sure does. So next time you get a little awkward when mom or dad brings up condoms or birth control, just roll with it. It's okay to experience life, people and the human body, just do it safely. If we are more open about the concept of sex and more accepting of our sexualities maybe these stereotypes wouldn't exist. There is no way to completely get rid of them, but if you take into consideration why they are NOT that important, maybe we could all be a little less judgmental of ourselves and our peers.

Living in a generation that was able to legalize gay marriage is amazing. Sexual preference should be spoken about freely and shamelessly, accepting the ones around you! That is what gets you to Heaven (if it exists), unlike the notion that you can only get there if you have sex after marriage.

Also take a sexualities class in college and maybe that will change your mind!