Don't Be Afraid Of Change, It Isn't All Bad

Don't Be Afraid Of Change, It Isn't All Bad

Change is a lot of things and shouldn't be associated with something bad


Change is a word that terrifies people because nobody likes change that much and I mean big changes. There are some people who like to change up their hair or move to a different house but even they have a fear of big changes. Like moving to a different city, losing someone you are used to having or having your future change. Maybe you realize you don't like what you are going to school for but you are afraid to change your major because it will change everything.

There are many things to be afraid of but change shouldn't be one of them because if we focus on how much we hate change then we will never be satisfied with our lives. Everything changes and everything will continue to change. Not everything will go our way. Just because we have these plans doesn't mean the universe will listen to them. We just don't have control of everything, we can try but we will never have total control over our lives. No matter how much we want it, some things aren't meant to be.

They say everything happens for a reason and sometimes we can't see why. Especially when losing someone you love, how can there be a REASON for that happening? Maybe it's a way to build ourselves up into the person we are supposed to be and maybe there isn't a reason, it just happens, it's change. Change can be good and bad but it shouldn't terrify us.

You shouldn't decide to do or to not do something because you are afraid of the change. Who knows maybe that thing will make your life better. You never know until you try which is the best thing us humans can do. We don't have that much control of our lives and how things turn out but we can try to make the best of it.

You will go through so many changes in your life, it is ridiculous. I mean in college some people change their majors and their whole career path changes. Some people will decide not to go to college and then their idea of becoming an adult will have to change quickly. As you get older you will lose people that you get so used to having there and that change will be devastating. Maybe you will have this whole idea of the life you were supposed to have and then something changes that entire idea. Change will always follow you no matter how much you try to avoid it.

It sounds scary, change but sometimes it isn't. A change can be a promotion too or a new family member. Change can be being single for a really long time and then finding your partner when you thought there were none for you. Change can be the opportunity you have been wishing to get. Change is a lot of things, it is the good and the bad which is why we shouldn't just associate it with something that is bad.

"Don't be afraid of change. You may lose something good, but may gain something better"

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A Letter To My Freshman Dorm Room As I Pack Up My Things

Somehow a 15' x 12' room became a home.


Dear Geary 411,

With your creaky beds, concrete walls, and mismatched tile floors, you are easily overlooked as just another room we were randomly assigned to— but you were different. Inside your old walls, I have made some of the best memories of my life that I will hold on to forever.

Thank you for welcoming my neighbors in with open arms who quickly became friends who didn't knock and walked in like you were their own.

I feel like an apology is needed.

We're sorry for blaring the music so loud while getting ready and acting like we can actually sing when, in reality, we know we can't. Sorry for the dance parties that got a bit out of control and ended with us standing on the desks. Sorry for the cases of the late-night giggles that came out of nowhere and just would not go away. Sorry for the homesick cries and the "I failed my test" cries and the "I'm dropping out" cries. We're sorry for hating you at first. All we saw was a tiny and insanely hot room, we had no idea what you would bring to us.

Thank you for providing me with memories of my first college friends and college experiences.

As I stand at the door looking at the bare room that I first walked into nine months ago I see so much more than just a room. I see lots and lots of dinners being eaten at the desks filled with stories of our days. I see three girls sitting on the floor laughing at God knows what. I see late night ice cream runs and dance battles. I see long nights of homework and much-needed naps. Most importantly, I look at the bed and see a girl who sat and watched her parents leave in August and was absolutely terrified, and as I lock you up for the last time today, I am so proud of who that terrified girl is now and how much she has grown.

Thank you for being a space where I could grow, where I was tested physically, mentally and emotionally and for being my home for a year.


A girl who is sad to go

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When Was The Last Time You Were Alive?

If you can't post it for everyone to see, was it truly a remarkable moment?


Being alive is an essentially effortless act.

In theory, as long as you're eating food, drinking water, and performing as a human, assuming no major health conditions, most of us are living.

The tragedy I see most often is so very few of us are alive.

Now, I'm not suggesting you drop your textbooks and sprint up a mountain, or go broke trying to find yourself in new activities and events.

That's the illusion pressed onto so many of us. Social Media, more importantly, FOMO, has taught us that in order to truly be alive we need to make sure we travel far and wide, eat gourmet and unique food, and essentially, immerse ourselves in something phenomenal. However, regardless of what you do- don't do it without an audience and the value of your experience will only be justified by the number of likes you accrue on your #bestvacation ever because you #lovenature. With your back to the camera and wispy hair flowing in the beach air, you hit all of your angles, how else will you prove that you're alive to Instagram?

I fell for this too. I spent so much of my life constantly trying to get to the next phase life had to offer. High school was fun, but I was counting the days until graduation. Growing up in a small hometown wasn't awful, but I had sticky note calendars until my next vacation. And day in and day out, events would happen all around me that were just too "normal." I wasn't alive, but I was living.

Setting your soul on fire and truly living is so much more difficult than you could ever expect, but not because you have to drain savings and take along a buddy to snap all the perfect moments.

Choosing to be alive is realizing how important it is to be in this moment or phase in life and accepting it for all its worth. Instead of racing to the finish line or trying to sprint into your next season of assumed happiness, take time to notice all the beautiful and small things that make this moment so important. There is so much life to be found in simple moments.

Semesters are ending, we are all racing to summer. Perhaps in the process, take note of the routine cafeteria worker that constantly smiles at you and says hello. Or perhaps, giggle at the fact that in just a few short weeks that bus driver you see every single morning won't be apart of your morning routine.

The farther I get from what used to be my normal, the more I miss that season of life. I haven't lived in my hometown since I was eighteen, but I miss the simplicity that came with my drives to high school listening to Kanye West and the coziness of a small town opening its doors to start a new day. I never stopped to be alive in those moments, I was just simply living.

Wherever your next phase of life might be, it will always be there. You will always have something else coming. However, once this moment is gone. It's truly gone. Don't waste beautiful views trying to capture just the right picture for Instagram, take in the moment.

Living and experiencing life can be as simple as trusting that you're exactly where you need to be in life. Cherish each moment as you're in it. The next moment is coming whether you're ready or not.

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