Your Early 20s Are A Weird Stage

Your Early 20s Are Just Plain Weird, Might As Well Accept It

I'm just gonna sit on this swing and enjoy the ride.


Whether you're in college, in the workforce, the military, or starting that career you've studied four hard years for, your 20s are just weird. We have all dreamed and imagined what our 20s would look like. We imagined what college would be like, what college we would go to, the job field we would end up in, and so on. I always looked up to the family members that were off in college and envied them a little because I always wished I was older and grown up.

Now that that time has come, I wish I would've listened to my parents when they said that life goes by so fast and that you're going to miss this someday.

I still am not a fan of school, but I do miss not having any responsibilities other than if my jersey was washed for my next game. Life was so much simpler back then, and no matter how much they told us to soak in every moment, we never did.

The weirdest thing about your 20s for a majority of people is you're on your own, but yet you're not. I go to college for 16 weeks at a time. During that time, I survive on my own. I go to school on my own, I pay rent and buy books and come home whenever I want on my own, but I still have a room waiting for me at my parent's house and I am fortunate enough that my parents pay for my tuition and things that I need to survive. We are given the responsibility to prove we can be on our own without actually doing it 110 percent, it's just weird.

Another weird thing is many of us girls believe we will find "the one" in our 20s. This is such an odd concept to me. It's like you turn 20 and you're just waiting for Mr. Right to show up at your doorstep like a movie or something. There's already so much going on during this phase of our lives. It's wild when you throw a relationship into the mix of it all. It makes things a lot more challenging.

Your 20s are weird because a lot happens. You finish college, you get a big girl/boy job, you travel, you learn so much. I think this is the time you really find out who you truly are at the core and you grow so much because of that. It's so crazy for me to watch how much my friends have evolved since we first met.

I feel like right now in my 20s, I'm just in this limbo of wanting to be a kid again with no responsibilities to wanting to be out in the real world and out of this weird time period. It may be weird, but 20 itself has already brought so much light and perspective into my life. I can't wait to see what the next nine more years have in store.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
Cover Image Credit: Sara Donnelli Photography

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