Most people have probably seen the movie "The Duff," or heard of the term, but for those of you who have not, "duff" stands for the "Designated Ugly Fat Friend." Even though the connotation of this term is fairly derogatory, I am here to tell you that being a duff is not all that bad.
You are an integral part of the friend group.
There are an abundance of different roles that a person can take in a friend group, but there is only one duff. The duff is the glue that holds everyone together. You are the irreplaceable clog that keeps your group running.
There are no expectations about your appearance.
People are so focused on your friends and how they look, no one really cares about what you wear. There is no pressure to try to live up to societal standards of beauty because you know that you are already there.
There are no social obligations.
You have grown accustomed to going wherever your squad goes, so when it comes to your individual social life, there is no reason to worry about finding your own parties to go to.
There is less drama because your friends don't feel the need to compete with you.
A lot of drama can be attributed to the fact that girls are insanely jealous creatures. So, as the duff, when your friends have no reason to be jealous, there is no reason for any unnecessary drama.
Your social skills are well rounded because you have gotten used to talking to guys for your friends.
Personally, I have shut down many boys for the sake of my friends, so when the time comes that I need to do it for myself, I will have that on lock.
Guys you actually talk to aren't just looking for a hook-up.
People know you are not the hookup type, so you do not have to worry about bad intentions when getting dates.
Your friends trust you.
You are the go-to in the group for whenever anyone has problems. You are an amazing listener and care about your friends, so they cannot help but trust you.
Everyone knows that you are the real MVP.
You are the best and funniest person in your friend group. You are amazing and confident and are the irreplaceable life of the party. So go and be your confident duff self and have a great life.
