“I don’t think I see a future with you.”
Isn’t it funny how one single sentence can hurt us so much? Rejection is a real thing and if I’m being completely honest, it seriously hurts. I have been rejected more times in the past year than I would like to admit and I swear each one hurts more than the first. It hurts to want somebody who doesn’t want you back. It also hurts to take that leap of faith and open up to somebody only for them to decide that they don’t “feel it” with you. You start to feel hopeless, lonely, and like you’ll never be good enough for somebody to love you. You also start to wonder “Why me?” and “Am I not good enough or what?” It’s hard and it can often be a daily struggle. Despite the rejection that I’ve felt, I’ve learned that those things aren’t true. Just because a boy doesn’t see a future with you or with me doesn’t mean that our future is hopeless. In fact, we can sometimes accomplish great things on our own without a boy (Am I right, ladies!?).
As somebody who has felt rejection, I know that the last thing that you want to hear is “Don’t worry God has somebody ten times better for you.” or “He has the greatest plan ever for you.” But y’all, even though we absolutely hate hearing those sayings over and over, it is so true. We serve a God of second chances and immeasurably more. He loves us more than we could ever comprehend. He loves us when we feel rejected and he loves us more than a boy will ever love us. He has a future in mind for each and every one of us. If that isn’t the greatest news then I don’t know what is.
Rejection hurts and it’s really not easy to get over, trust me. I’ve been struggling with the feeling of rejection and the pain that comes with it for over six months now! It can be so very hard, but I can rest in the fact that just because a boy chose to no longer love me or to see a future with me, I am still loved each and every day, forever and ever, because my Heavenly Father loves me. On the days when I struggle with “Will I really meet a guy who wants a future with me?”, I can rest in the hope that my God has a plan for me despite what I’ve been through, and despite the fact that I doubt my future, as long as I trust him.
Instead of focusing on that one little sentence “I don’t think I see a future with you.”, I will now choose joy, happiness, and hope because my God loves me, wants me, and chooses me. Through Him, I will never feel rejected or unwanted. My God is greater than my rejection and my fear of the future. Thank you, Jesus, for choosing me each and every day.
