I Don't Mind Waiting For The Right One

I Don't Mind Waiting For The Right One

I know he's out there...

I have always been in love with the idea of love; always wondered what it would be like to love someone and be in a relationship. I’ve never had a boyfriend, been in a long-term relationship, or been on a date (unless you count prom). It seems like it would be nice to have someone to hold my hand when I’m scared, or give me a hug when I’m sad. There have been times in my life when I have longed for a boyfriend, just so I could have those things, but there have also been times when I have felt a sense of independence, and not quite felt the need for a boyfriend.

Now that I am approaching the age of twenty, I think about the future a lot. I think about the next ten years, and how I’d like to be married by then. Right now the future is looking pretty dim, since there hasn’t been anyone to take interest in me, and I currently don’t have my eye on anyone. It sometimes makes me feel lonely and unwanted, but the thing that makes it easier is the fact that God has a plan for me.

Recently I received a letter from my church. They have a ministry in which they keep in touch with all the college students, so I receive a nice care package once a year, and find a letter in my mailbox every once in a while. This time the letter was written by one of the deacons, and it was about valentine’s day, which is quickly approaching. I actually found the letter pretty encouraging, because it was exactly what I needed to hear.

The first couple things the letter talked about were pieces of love-and-romance nonsense to be mindful of. In summary, God has a plan for my life; he knows who, or if I’ll marry. He knows how I’ll meet him, where we’ll go on our first date, and how long we’ll be together, and this means I need to trust him. This can be hard sometimes, especially when we want things to go a certain way, but God knows His intentions for us better than we do. Sure, there have been guys I’ve had my eye on in the past, but usually one of two things happens: I am too shy and scared to pursue him, or something happens that turns me away. If I turn away, I usually take whatever it was that caused that as a sign from the Lord that it wasn’t meant to be.

Now, if I want to get married, trusting God is a good way to go about it, but that doesn’t mean I do nothing. If a godly man comes into my life, I’m going to pray about pursuing him. Seeking counsel first is the way to go, and if God gives me the go-ahead, then I’ll be off, but while I wait for him, I need to be working on myself.

I’m not perfect. Not even close, actually. I know I will never be a perfect human being, but I can come close by leading a Christ-filled life. Another thing that was addressed in the letter was character; mine and his. In order to prepare myself for a relationship I need make sure I am living life as my best self, and that goes hand in hand with my relationship with Christ. As long as Christ is living in me, and our relationship is growing, then I know I will be putting my best foot forward.

This isn’t going to be easy. All of the things I just talked about are going to be extremely difficult for me, but well worth it in the end. Even though it’s hard, I don’t mind waiting; I know God will bring someone into my life for me to love and I pray for him all the time. My hope is that he is also working on himself, trusting God, and praying for me from time to time. Whoever he is, I hope he’s excited to meet me, because I can’t wait to meet him.

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To The Boy Who Made Me Love Again

Thank you for loving me and showing me how to love myself.


To the boy who made me love again:

From the very beginning of our relationship, you showed me you were different. You showed me how I should be treated.

After dating someone for three years, falling in love was the last thing I wanted to do again. I did not want to grow close to anyone and fall in love with every little aspect of someone, but with you, it was so much different. You were different from other guys I had talked to. You have done small things for me that make me so happy. From offering to order me pizzas while I'm working to ordering me a key chain that says "drive safe," it's the little things you've done to make me love you.

During my previous relationship, I had come to a custom of pulling out my card to pay for dates and thought it was okay to accept the fact that good morning text did not exist. Every morning since we started dating, you never forget to text me good morning. We almost fight over who is going to pay, because I can't expect you to pay for every date. You have shown me what to expect in a relationship.

You never fail to make me happy. Whenever I say I'm hungry, you get me Mexican. When I want to watch Netflix, you immediately put on The Office. I can mention one thing I want and you buy it because you know it will make me happy. You give me forehead kisses and it puts a smile on my face. Whenever I am upset, you won't get off the phone until you figure out what is wrong and make sure everything is okay.

You make me feel beautiful. I can come over in leggings and socks and Birkenstocks or I can come over in a nice shirt and booties, but either way, you tell me I'm beautiful. Whenever I just wake up and look a hot mess, you look me in my eyes and tell me I'm beautiful.

You always tell me to be careful whenever I'm driving and you make sure to tell me you love me every night before you go to bed. You remind me of things I know I'll forget and you literally read my mind. You motivate me with my schooling and tell me how proud you are of me when I make a good grade.

I never wanted to date again and I especially did not want to fall in love; however, you are everything I dreamed of wanting. I am so blessed to have met you and fallen in love with you. So to the boy who made me want to love again, I love you and thank you for everything.

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36 Hobbies To Take Up If You Want To Be The Next Best 20-Something Grandma

Pursuing something with needle and thread is a good start


Need a new hobby? Want to emulate a grandmother? Here are some great ideas for fun things to do in your spare time to get you ready to be the best grandma in 40-50 years!

1. Knitting

2. Baking

This hobby will also come with many friends wanting to try your creations.

3. Crocheting

4. Sudoku 

You gotta keep the mind healthy.

5. Crosswords

6. Cooking

7. Thrifting

Goodwill is your go-to for fabulous finds that won't break the bank.

8. Join a book club

Whether or not you actually read the book, either way it's a good way to socialize.

9. Yard Sale-ing

Don't tell me you didn't go yard sale-ing with your grandma at least once in your childhood.

10. Napping

11. Brunching

Food and friends (and a mimosa)... what's not to love about this hobby?

12. Spades

13. Hearts

14. Gardening

Figure out if you have a green thumb earlier rather than later.

15. Sewing

Being able to fix (or even make) your own clothes seems like both a creative outlet and a practical skill.

16. Antiquing

17. Cross-Stitching

Make some wall decorations for your room!

18. Power-walking

Why normal walk when you could speed walk?

19. Reading at 64-font on your Kindle

20. Read the newspaper

There's just something peaceful and nostalgic about reading a physical newspaper...

21. Collecting

Coins, dolls, you name it.... someone probably collects it.

22. Quilting

23. Rummy

24. Giving wise advice to those younger than you

25. Get a magazine subscription

26. Write hand-written letters to friends

It's fun and there is something so meaningful about taking the time to write it out and mail it.

27. Bridge

28. Curate a bomb matching pajama collection

29. Scrapbooking

Take your memories and add a creative touch... you won't regret it.

30. Tai Chi

I'm not a regular grandma, I'm a cool grandma...

31. Flower-arranging

32. Photography

Capture the moments of the loved ones around you!

33. Plan girls' trips with friends

34. Volunteer

Find time to give back to causes that you are passionate about!

35. Watch game shows

36. Watch soap operas

All the plot points and characters may be cringy, but they are so addicting!

Consider some of these hobbies if you find yourself looking for something to fill your time. When grandma-hood comes around, you'll be ready for it. And if you already do a lot of these things, well then we might as well go ahead and affectionately call you a 20-something grandma!

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