I recently listened to a radio show called "WTFrancia" that airs on Dash Radio. The topic was based on the quote "Love when you're ready, not when you're lonely." This conversation was interesting to me because I think a lot of college students can relate and benefit from this.
Everyone sees quite a few couples on campus — some couples are even getting married! — and seeing all of this in your face can make you feel pretty lonely, especially when you've been single for a while. (In fact, it can make you extremely lonely when you've really never been in a relationship.) As a result, you might find yourself being in a relationship just to be in a relationship. This happens too often.
This is why I loved the topic on the show. There are a few points that stuck out to me.
Dating with Intention
This is the most common dating mistake I see. A lot of people are not dating with intention. The way I see it, what's the point of dating if it's not intentional? Especially as we get older, we should date someone that we can potentially see marrying one day. Let me be clear, dating with intention is not just finding the right person for you. We should also focus on being the right person for someone. The thing that happens all too often is we find ourselves wanting someone that's tall, smart, funny and so on. We come up with a list of things we want. These wants are not the most important. What's important is thinking I need someone that's loyal, encouraging and supportive. Our needs should be important, and everything else follows.
Knowing your Worth
This is a good way to know you're ready. When you know your worth, you won't lower your standards. You won't settle.You won't be in a relationship just to be in a relationship. You'll be in a relationship because you're blessed to have found someone. You will be so secure in who you are, that you know what you need and what you deserve. Knowing your worth comes from knowing your identity. For me, knowing who I am in Christ is where my worth comes from, and I believe this is your worth as well.
How do you know when you're ready?
Something that stuck out me from the show was when someone said, "Love when you're ready to fall in love with the same person every day." This is so simple, but so complex at the same time. I believe you're ready to love when you're ready to be with someone you can't picture your life without. This is another way of looking at it. Basically, when you're ready to be with someone forever, then you're ready. Love is rooted in commitment.
You might be ready for love, but like Francia Raisa said, "Trust the timing of your life." There is a reason why you're single, and love will come on it's own timing. The truth is, it does get lonely, but to sum everything up, you have to be so secure in who you are.
This topic was so good. You can listen to the episode here!
