If you are like me I’m sure you have sat staring in a mirror with the thought “why did I choose this outfit it doesn’t compliment my body?” “Why are my thighs so big?” “Why do am I so fat?” But exactly why do we as women shun ourselves because of our impurities? Is it because we want to be the best or maybe it’s because we see other girls and think I want to be just like her.

Honey, let me tell you a secret, you don’t have to be just like that Victoria Secret model or that cheerleader that sits in front of you in your math class to be perfect.

I’ve learned through the years of having a few extra pounds along with having an hourglass figure isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It’s a wonderful aspect because you have what every girl wants--the hourglass figure--but you may also have the horrible acne, the glasses, the curly hair that is uncontrollable without hairspray or Bedhead, that one boob that is smaller than the other, or the imperfect smile because your parents can’t afford braces.

However, because we have these “imperfections” as we call them that doesn’t mean we can’t feel perfect in our own skin or like a princess. We must learn to overcome these things we see as imperfect and see the beauty that is behind it all and that is you! Learn and show yourself behind all the little things you hate about yourself past the imperfections, past the negatives, past the hating, you are truly beautiful.

It wasn’t easy for me to learn to do this. It took several years for me to figure out that my thick thighs, uncontrollable curly hair, bad acne, biting my fingernails habit having-self was truly beautiful.

Don’t down yourself because you see yourself as gross or ugly. Don’t tell yourself that because you are beautiful. If you have ever been called ugly, disgusting, a scum--don’t take that to heart. It's hateful things people tend to say because truthfully, they have imperfections of their own and they want to have someone feel how they do but little do they know you're struggling with self-confidence too.

Don’t let that guy who rejects you because you're “too thick”, “you're ugly”, “you're fat” get to you. There are men out there who are looking for a girl like you. Don’t feel as if you are what they say. It only shows how immature they really are to say something like that to a girl like you.

Someone so beautiful, imperfections and all, they should be lucky to have someone as brave as you to have the courage to be with them not the guy who makes you feel worse than you already do because of your dislikes about yourself.

We as women can get over all of the little “imperfections” we have, but, first, we must find the courage and believe that’s who we are. Don’t you EVER change for anyone change for you and you only! Don’t let the harsh words of others influence who you are or who you will become because one day you will be a shining star darling, and you will shine bright and conquer anything.