As a senior in high school, I am unavoidably caught in an endless whirlpool of pervasive questions from adults who know virtually nothing about me, the notoriously laborious process of college applications, and cups of coffee downed quickly before school. There are countless memories of this distinct period of time I intend to cherish that both school and living have prepared me for, but ultimately I am still figuring my life out. I do not know who I am, but everyday I get closer and closer to revealing the enigma that is myself. Through my personal journey, I have realized that there is more than one way to exist in this human existence: I am still figuring it all out, and that is okay. From defining choices such as college majors, to ones of lesser magnitude like what I will eat for lunch today, I do not know what I am doing. I have reached this peak of skepticism, but the only way for me to survive is to understand that life is not scripted- if anything it is an interminable improv show, interrupted by sudden moments of clarity. No matter how old I grow or the extent of my maturity, I will never have it all figured out, but that is what makes life mysterious, dynamic and challenging! It is unnerving, yet somehow thrilling, to know that I will still be figuring my life out well into my adulthood, but what is the point if I cant thrive under circumstances of uncertainty? Why must I dwell in this façade of knowing exactly what my life is about and what I am doing next? Where is the fun in knowing exactly what is in store? Every person on this earth lives an entirely singular experience and I don't know why we don't recognize such an original phenomenon that everyone experiences. To me, the aspects of my life that I am unsure about is because I am living through the longevity of the human experience, not because I am incapable of true stagnancy or consistency. I tend to awkwardly gloss over or completely ignore comments asking me about things I am disappointed with or not sure about, but I am honestly exhausted by that. I am tired of this expectation that we have to have our entire lives planned out in an instant as a child. What would your life be if you didn't experience those defining moments of spontaneity? What would happen without those late night rides with people I normally don't talk to, blaring music that you all love and yelling the lyrics like war chants? Who would I be without the all nighters spent with ones I love now, but did not then? Running away to hidden safe havens, kindling an unlikely friendship, even going for an unplanned career opportunity? Who would you be if your every move was calculated? A life without epiphanies is a life vastly wasted, in my opinion. I do not mean to say that you should never plan anything, but take stride in your ability to be alive in this present moment- life may surprise you. Next time you find yourself in a situation you might be stuck on answering- just say yes and see where it takes you- you never know what might happen. By embracing life's haziness and questions, I am not worried about whether or not a new development corresponds with my initial plan. I truly prefer it. You do not have to be anyone but yourself and you do not have to act like someone you are not. I know that this sounds cringe-worthy and trite, but it is true! There is more than one way to exist. There is no shame in uncertainty, nor is there in nonconformity. By happenstance, someone inevitably will question my life, but instead of rambling and begging the question, I will openly admit that I do not know. I am still figuring it all out, and I always will be.
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Here's the coffee shop where you should get your morning brew.
Coffee, for billions of people, is one of the only things that can get us out of bed (after hitting snooze a time or two), especially in 2020. Because, if we're being honest, is there anything that beats a quality cup of coffee on those mornings when all we wanted to do is roll over and go back to sleep? The answer is no. And if you're headed to a coffee shop to pick up your caffeinated beverage, you don't want to sleep on the best coffee drinks in America.
According to LiveShopper Sassie's Coffee Project survey, when it comes to chain coffee shops, there are definitely preferred spots you'll want to hit up for your go-to order — whether you order the classic, frozen, or flavored coffee, an espresso, tea, or other. To figure out the hot spots, 1,000 coffee drinkers across the United States took to LiveShopper's mobile app, PrestoShopper, to answer various questions about their coffee drinking habits and preferences. In return, these survey respondents got money back for their coffee — something any user who downloads the app can do as well (yes, even you).
"Cast an older bachelorette they said, she'll be more mature they said."
"The Bachelorette" is FINALLY back, and season 16 is already off to a — dare I say it? — DRAMATIC start.
There is no fandom more involved and invested than Bachelor Nation, so naturally, viewers had A LOT of thoughts during last night's premiere. And honestly, the only thing more entertaining than watching a new episode of "The Bachelor" is following the live tweets fans post while it airs.
If you're a first-time voter or voting by mail for the first time, we want to hear your story.
The general election on Tuesday, November 3, 2020, will decide not only the next president of the United States but also which political party controls the House of Representatives and the Senate. Young and first-time voters will play a crucial part in determining the result.
Beware: you'll be summoning the ghosts of exes past.
Halloween 2020 is going to be pretty different, but that doesn't mean the ghost stories have to social distance themselves. In fact, after a year like this one, what's a few more horror stories to add to the mix? If you and your partner dare, this boo-zy drinking game will definitely add a little spook into your All Hallows' Eve plans. Think you're brave enough to share your scariest dating stories with your pumpkin this October 31? You've come to the right spot.
This is the Ultimate Spooky Dating Drinking Game. Here's how it works:
Get your day started right — and keep that budget tight.
For all the young professionals, parents, and students out there who've been working, learning, or even teaching remote — 2020 has likely been the longest year of your life. If you didn't know (sorry), we've been locked down for over 200 days now, and chances are, you are ready for it to be OVER.
Just because it's a holiday, doesn't mean there isn't still a pandemic going on.
1. Movie Night
Your state may determine how picky you are about your coffee.
When it comes to coffee, everyone has different criteria for what goes into their "perfect cup." Some caffeine lovers, though, are extra particular when it comes to their beloved beverage. One survey found that the state you're from (or the one you live in now) may play a part in determining how much of a coffee snob you actually are.
LiveShopper Sassie, the company behind this Coffee Project survey, received input from 1,000 coffee drinkers via their mobile app, PrestoShopper, to ask various questions about their coffee drinking habits and preferences. In return, these survey respondents got money back for their coffee — something any user who downloads the app can do as well (yes, even you).
My personal thoughts about my most recent shopping experience during the pandemic and some fall fashion trends I'm loving this season.
I have yet to find anything better than some good old retail therapy to boost my mood. Shopping has always been one of my favorite pastimes as I love putting outfits together and the excitement of adding new pieces to my closet.
It's perfect for anyone who's disguised their dandruff as snowflakes.
- Like face masks, hair masks are a great way to do a more intense treatment that tackles more specific issues like dry strands or an itchy scalp.
- I don't necessarily suffer from dandruff, but my scalp can get a little itchy post-workout and in the colder months.
- I tried the Malin + Goetz Detox Scalp Mask and it was a game changer — my scalp felt cleaner, smoother, and more refreshed than ever in five quick minutes.
- The mask is a go-to for a clean detox of my hair and scalp after I've put a lot of product in my hair or done a lot of styling to it.
Like most self-proclaimed beauty guru and product junkie, I've been obsessed with my hair and hair products for decades. For me, the goal has always been to transform my dry, brittle strands into thick, shiny, and silky ones.
For that reason, I've spent a lot of time (and money) on styling and heat products that have, at times, made my hair look great at the expense of excess product buildup and heat damage.
She used it every single night.
Remember when thin eyebrows were in? Unfortunately, me too. If you've over-tweezed your eyebrows, you know how much of a painful and slow process it is to get them back to a "normal" shape — let alone trying to keep up with the newest trends that seem to come and go every other month.
But, what does that look like nowadays? A defined, thicker brow which, I will admit, takes a lot of time and practice to perfect.
My experience as a senior at Drexel University in Fall 2020 amidst the COVID-19 pandemic.
I am a senior mechanical engineering major at Drexel University in Philadelphia, PA. Drexel already has a weird quarter term system, so classes began at the end of September. All undergraduate classes are online, either synchronous or asynchronous. However, most graduate classes are still in-person.
As of October 19th, Drexel has 14 active cases (13 students and 1 employee). There has been a total of 113 cases in the Drexel community (104 students and 9 employees).
The most wonderful (and nerve-wracking) time of the year.
Every true baseball fan knows that October is the most exciting time of the year. There are heartbreaks, joyful victories, and legendary moments in every post-season baseball game.
You may find yourself stuck in a love/hate relationship with the sport for most of the month but there is nothing better than watching your favorite team pile up Ws on their way to the World Series.
The 2020 burnout is REAL.
This semester has been pretty rough for most students. Online classes may have some perks, but overall it's often harder to learn and remember the material. CofC just finished midterms and every student I know feels burned out. This is a very frustrating feeling and it feels like things will never return to the way they were. Remember to go easy on yourself and just do your best.
When you're not feeling sexy, you lose your sex drive.
Your body image has a huge impact on your sex life — let's be real, intimacy includes your body.
It's normal to have your bad days when you're just not feeling it, but if the bad days are stacking up to tower the confident days, maybe it's time to start working on how you perceive yourself. Carrying shame around with you all day will crawl its way into the bedroom and kill your sex life. But don't worry, there are always ways to revive it. And, it starts with self-acceptance, self-respect, and self-feel goods.
1. Brittany Morgan, National Writer's Society
2. Radhi, SUNY Stony Brook
3. Kristen Haddox, Penn State University
4. Jennifer Kustanovich, SUNY Stony Brook
5. Clare Regelbrugge, University of Illinois Urbana-Champaign