I have always been one of those people who would go out of their way to make sure others were happy—often putting others' happiness above my own. That's just who I was! But lately, I've developed a new mindset. I have come to the realization that you can't please everyone and that it is okay to put yourself first!
I know this seems like common knowledge, but there is a power behind these statements. I used to hate whenever someone was mad at me. I would do any and everything I could to make things right (even if it wasn't my fault). However, it can be draining working to always please people. Quite frankly, it is impossible to please everyone. Thus, I came to the realization that I just don't have to please everyone.
It's quite freeing to be at that point in my life. I am not dictated by the opinions of others to the same extent as before. I'm not here saying that I don't at all care what others think of me. I don't think anyone can truly feel that way, no matter what they may say. There will always be some part of you that cares—it's just human nature.
Furthermore, you can't let others' opinions of you determine your self-worth. It is important to not let every little thing get to you. It's just not worth it. "People-pleasers" often can get caught up in all of this and are brought down by it. Yet, when you stop and look at the big picture, you realize how small and insignificant these things are. There is so much going on in today's world with different work, social and political movements; it is just silly to let others opinions of you take up so much weight.
Have you ever been in a situation where a person was just draining you? Both mentally and emotionally?
It may seem selfish to put yourself first, but you need to recognize what is best for yourself and the importance of self-love and wellbeing. There are decisions I have made and people that are no longer in my life that support this. I had to put myself first and realize what was best for me and move forward. I am a firm believer in the fact that people are in your life for certain seasons. But if you leave something in the past, you left it in the past for a reason. Always strive to go upward and onward.
All in all, I encourage you to assess the different people and relationships in your life and recognize that it is okay to advocate for yourself and put yourself first. Realize that it is *impossible* to truly please everyone and go from there. Remember to always stay true to yourself and all things will fall into place.
