High school didn’t just bring me homework and anxiety, it brought me tons of “friends”. It seemed like if I wasn’t at work or involved in something school related I was either at someone’s house or someone was on their way over to mine. Just like high school, those friends were short lived.
You’ll hear people talk about the friends they disconnected with after high school, or the friends they no longer speak to but will always care about. Well, here is the real explanation to WHY I actually stopped hanging around those girls, and any girl my age.
Of course, everybody had their first taste of the real world following graduation. Unfortunately this brought out the true colors of plenty of the girls I associated with in school. Whether they cut me off due to my lack of funds from parents to screw around and party, or simply because I had a real job and couldn’t be available to them at their beck and call, the majority of the girls in my high school flock began to disappear in the summer following graduation. Easy enough to realize I should stop reaching out to them.
Seeing as though the real world kinda.. well.. absolutely freaking sucks sometimes, there were a good number of my friends who decided to handle their “real world problems” with alcohol or drug abuse.. neither of which I was supportive of or wanted to partake in. Obviously those friends were left far, far behind.
I actually found an entire new group of friends and thought I would enjoy a fresh start with a fresh crop of girls. WRONG. I was really horribly mistaken. I began to realize that no matter where I went, or who the girls were, the majority of the crowd my age still hadn’t grown out of their immature and distasteful teenage behavior. Call me old fashioned, but trying to test the waters with my boyfriend and disrespecting me behind my back are NOT what I look for in friendships.. particularly those with ADULTS. Toto, I’ve got a feeling we aren’t in high school anymore.
Clearly, it didn’t take me very long to realize that the girls who surrounded me just weren’t what I was looking for in friends. I looked everywhere for people who shared the same wholesome values as me, but in your early 20’s, and in a college town, they come few and far between. It really just made sense to stop. Stop surrounding myself with people I really didn’t care for. Stop hanging out with girls who were involved in things I didn’t support or didn’t want to be involved in. Stop forgiving the same friends for repeated crappy behavior.
Now, here I am with no real “girlfriends”. The craziest part is I’m happier doing the things I love to do, by myself, or with my boyfriend. I’d much rather be happy doing things by myself or with a man who truly cares about me, than with girls who could care less about me and fill my life with drama. This is the REAL reason I decided to ditch girls my age. Adios, chickas.
