I Don't Dress To Impress You, I Dress For Myself

I Don't Dress To Impress You, I Dress For Myself

I never think to myself "what would *insert name here* want me to wear?"

When I’m deciding what to wear every morning, a couple things come to mind: how much time I have before class, how long I’ll be out that day, how clean I am and how clean my clothes are, and how confident I’m feeling.

Confidence is the biggest factor, though. If I’m feeling like the hottest girl on campus, chances are I’m going to wear a nicer outfit.

Why? Because I want to put more effort in so I look how my mind feels.

On the other hand, if I’m not feeling well, got up late, or would rather curl up in a ball than go outside, I’m going to default to my super comfy sweats. There are also days where my most confident self is in baggy sweatpants and a ponytail because I feel confident when I’m comfortable.

Thoughts that never come to mind are ‘what would * insert name here * want me to wear?’ or ‘what makeup would impress * insert name here *?’. I’m sorry that I’m so selfish, but you aren’t my first thought in the morning. I am. I absolutely hate being asked who I wore something for or who I am meeting because apparently, I can’t wear lipstick to just hang out with my friends.

This is a real problem in our society. Imagine deciding what prom dress you were going to wear based on what suit your date will wear. Um… No, thank you.

I’m going to wear a dress that makes me feel and look like a princess.

It can take a lot for a woman to feel confident enough to wear a different colored lipstick or an outfit that is a little more form-fitting. Getting butterflies in your stomach just by looking in the mirror and thinking that the extremely attractive person in the mirror is YOU. What happens once you leave your room, though? The questions.

You probably know the exact ones I’m talking about.

"Do you have a date tonight? With who?"

"Was it worth taking all of that time because you were almost late to class."

Well, guess what? It is worth it. Think about how amazing it is to look at yourself in the mirror and see value.

I know that there are plenty of hella confident women out there who know that they are goddesses all the time, no matter what they wear.

But for those of us who aren’t, it can be extremely damaging to feel questioned and judged when you finally decide to do something for yourself. When it happens to me, I feel crushed and disappointed. I would much rather hear that my eyeliner looks amazing than being questioned about why I bothered to do it in the first place.

I’ll tell you right now that if you are berating or gossiping other women for wearing clothing that you would never wear, stop yourself and just don’t do it. Would you want to hear what they say about you? No, and I’m betting that whoever you are talking about doesn’t want to hear it either.

Never let anyone decide what you are to wear or what makeup you are allowed to put on. In the end, their opinions shouldn’t matter. Never wear something to get someone’s attention, those aren’t the people you want anyway. Your clothes will change, but your personality is who you are and who they should love you for.
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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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The Cliche 'Follow Your Heart' Is Probably The Most Important Cliche Of All Time

Our heart or our brain? What should we listen to first?


In life, we are constantly faced with tough decisions concerning relationships, college, career, marriage … the list of decisions we must make in a lifetime is endless. This means, however, that there are plenty of moments in our life where we will put into question our very own intuition, where we will waste time going back and forth between our mind and our soul. So then we ask ourselves when faced with a decision, what do we listen to? What should we listen to? Our brain or our heart?

Yeah, okay so following your heart is probably the most cliche thing you've ever heard. Our younger selves constantly heard the saying all the time growing up. Did we act on it? Maybe, but not in the ways that we should be acting on it now. Give it a chance and just think about it for a second.

I've realized that as you get older, it becomes harder to just listen to yourself. There are distractions all around you. Some come from the comments of your peers, some come from the devices in your hands, some come from the news headlines you see in bold. With this, you find yourself struggling to find a balance between thinking about something and just doing it. You find yourself unable to decipher what exactly you should listen to. You suddenly become lost within your own little world.

Who would you be if you didn't follow your heart? Would your life be completely different than it is now?

If we think about how we got to the place we're at today, we simultaneously also think about those decisions I mentioned earlier. And those decisions were probably mostly made from our own intuition, not from logistical thinking. The sad part is we don't even realize this, and we don't even realize how important this is.

How did you choose a college? Deciding where you're going to spend the next four years of your life, working towards a career is a big deal. Some will describe their decision as a feeling they got when they stepped on campus. Yes, the tuition was a factor along with retention rates and undergraduate programs and study abroad opportunities, but the one factor that truly mattered was how they felt so at home, while in reality being so far away from their hometown. So, this decision was made from a feeling, this decision was made from the heart.

Relationships. When deciding to tell someone you love them, you're following your heart. When deciding to commit to someone in a relationship or in a friendship or whatever it may be, you're following your heart. You're putting everything on the line because of how you feel. Nothing else matters. Just the two of you, together, happy and in love. And because of that, because of the magnitude of that one feeling, you listen to your heart first and figure out everything else later. Now, being able to have that, being able to experience this type of love, well that's just one of the best feelings in the world.

We can even consider a career. When trying to figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life, you are looking for that feeling, for that career to find you. You are searching for that inevitable inclination telling you, you're meant to do something in this world. You dream big imagining yourself doing this one job that you feel so passionately about, changing the world and inspiring others to do the same. You are motivated by this one field so much that you decide to do it for the rest of your life. If that's not following your heart, then I don't know what is.

It seems so obvious. We hear "follow your heart" all the time. But do we ever actually realize how much impact a heart can have on one's life? No. And that's why it's maybe not so obvious. Because we're told to follow our hearts, but we never actually take the time to comprehend it. And so, we live our lives letting this concept of intuition before cognition become underrated. We let it secretly impact some of our most important life decisions without even ever realizing it.

So realize it. From now on don't just listen. Act. Follow your heart as much as you can and never look back.

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