Don't Do It For Them

Don't Do It For Them

When no one gets your dream.

People pleasing. Two famous words for the softees who can't say no or for those who struggle with who they are and depend on other people to tell them. Are you a college student who has a passion for education, but everyone seems to tell you that you won't fit that role? Have you done the same job your whole life, but stayed within the boundaries for the sake of your routine? Don't do it for them.

1. It's Not Selfish To Consider Yourself

Selfishness in and of itself is a topic for another day, but briefly, selfishness is not selfish. Excessive selfishness is harmful, like spending all of your time and not investing in anyone. Taking the time to pour into and to cultivate your skills is not selfish. You may benefit other people through the time you spend alone, because you will be a better version of yourself.

2. You Know Your Dream

Envision yourself pursuing your dream and actually achieving it. Only you know what your true dreams are, even though you may not know quite how to get there yet. If you don't know your dream, that's okay. Taking time to hone in your skills like I said in point one will allow you to be the best you can be at the right time. No one can take away your passions, and you should not allow someone to squander a passion.

3. Listen, But Don't

I'm a music and religion double major. If I had a dollar for every time someone said "So, what are you doing with that?" I could pay off all my student loans. It's not that people mean it in a negative way (some do), but they don't always see what you see. Thank goodness not everyone in the world has the same job. That's lame. That's even dangerous. I have had negative comments towards my major before, but that will not make me change it. I listen, but I don't. I hear the pros and cons and opinions. Listen to the people that care about you and know your vision and passions. That sounds fun and dandy, and for some people that's the case, but here's what's really hard: when the people who love you do not understand your dreams. If they love you, they will support you. Even though they might not like it. They want the best for you.

Don't live your life for other people. One of my favorite quotes is from a rapper by the name of Lecrae. He says "If you live for people's acceptance, you'll die from their rejection."

Pursue your passions. Listen, but don't. Take care of yourself. Love other people in the process.


Hope Roberts

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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