Okay first thing's first, I didn't always hate frats. It was a slow and gradual road to the world of hating them. I used to think maybe they're the cool guys in college, until I got to college. They're just kind of a bunch of wannabe pretentious guys.
I joined a sorority the first month of freshman year and I left because Greek life freaks me out in all honesty. In my opinion, sororities are so much cooler than frats, so don't take this as I am bashing sororities as well. For example, there is actually a system in place to pick the girls each house wants. Frats, on the other hand, basically just hang out and drink, and if they think you're cool, you're in. That is it. If you can drink and hang apparently you're a stand up guy. There are so many things wrong with that line of reasoning.
I sat next to a girl this past semester that said she goes to every single frat party at a specific house, and she has only been ruffed 3 times. 3 times. Why is that okay at all? Why aren't more girls reporting this? Most of the ruffing activity at college parties happens at fraternity houses. So much for calling them "fraternity gentlemen". They drug girls and take advantage of them, that isn't what most people think of as a stand up guy.
It has gotten to the point that whenever I see a guy in a suit and I know he is in a frat, I won't even give him the time of day because of the things I have experienced. The two frat parties I have gone to were in a ghetto basement so full of people I couldn't even move my arms. This party was chalk full of guys looking to lay anything with legs. For a sober person (me), it is easy to figure out that these are not the guys I wanna be with for a night, or ever, in all reality.
A frat member I used to know told me about how his frat used to have a house but they were no longer allowed to have one because the members had used cocaine on the property and it was pretty much downhill from there. This frat was known as a business, Christian fraternity. Nothing more Christian and professional than a bunch of drunk losers with a cocaine problem. Honestly, it looks to me like conformity. Frat members are that set of guys who were just popular in high school because they were hot. Now they are in college and they're so desperate to hold on to that popularity from high school. There are no longer sports they can take part in, so they take up beer pong professionally. Guys that drink and do drugs all the time are basically what I think of when a person mentions a frat. It is nothing but negative wannabes with no future goals. And if they do have these goals they can't do anything without being connected to the hip by their so called "brothers." These are the same brothers that don't know anything about each other besides their drink limit, and how many girls they have slept with in the past month.
The single good thing that frats do are some odds and ends philanthropy events, but what no one tells you is that they have to do it in order to be part of the frat. They are not doing it out of the kindness of their hearts. They are doing it because it guarantees the acceptance of them into their brotherhood, like most things they do. Also, I think the whole idea of brotherhood and putting your "brothers" before everyone, even girlfriends, is the wrong way to teach American males how to behave in society. Putting friends before anything and everything else is only a good quality to a point, then it becomes a self-confidence issue on their part when it goes too far.
I think that universities would be better off without frats because they cause more trouble than what they are worth. Look, I am all about having a good time but I would say 95% of these so called fraternity gentlemen are only in it for the beer. They don't care about school or even making something great of themselves. Those people that say it looks great on a resume sicken me. Make sure to remind me that when I am interviewing them, that it will be a strike against them for a job. I am not looking for a conformist, precious, wannabe in any line of work I choose to be in.
