Let me just clarify something, first. Young women need to learn to respect themselves. I don't care whether you're a feminist or not, every woman needs to understand that you do not need a man beside you through everything. You do not need to dress up to get a man to notice you. You do not need to get drunk or do drugs to have the confidence to meet a guy. You do not need a guy by your side at all times, period. Be your own motivation.
Growing up, I had a few close friends who would be talking to or dating someone different every other week. Like, how do you even keep up? Do you ever call him the wrong name? Knowing my luck, I probably would. Anyways, I also had so many guy friends. I was probably one of the biggest "bros" in the school and still am to this day. My guy friends would talk to me about girls all the time, so I quickly figured out how guys view different girls.
"Bruh, she's talking to a new guy every other day."
"I care about her so much, but she never notices because she's going back and forth between two guys and now I don't know if I could ever see myself being with her."
"She lovin' the crew, man, but we don't love these..."
Surely you get the idea by now. Guys aren't attracted to girls like this what so ever. Unless they're one of those guys who isn't looking for anything serious. Which in that case, you should be smart enough to look the other way, because falling for the local douche bag isn't fun. Trust me.
With having so many guy friends, I learned what they like in a girl. They love intelligence and natural beauty (they know when you have 3 layers of foundation on). They also find it annoying when girls act dumb to look cute, so stop doing that, because it actually gets you nowhere. Shocking, right?
And guys, if you're reading this and saying, "Isn't this how all girls are?" then please close out this tab because your ignorance isn't wanted here. If your expectation in women is a dumb, helpless girl and you want to "save" her... #swerve and get some help for yourself. Let her figure herself out because you're just going to make matters worse.
With all that being said, a lot of girls love having someone who gives them attention, whether it's in a positive way or not. I never understood why it always had to be a guy, or a bunch of different guys, for that matter. Just, why? If you think everything that you do is so great, celebrate on your own. Spoil yourself. Get dressed up because you want to feel nice. Don't dress up for a guy, that's silly. If he likes you, he'll accept you in your sweatpants and messy bun lifestyle. Why do silly stuff that isn't you to get people to notice you? Respect yourself, be yourself and don't be the girl that every guy 'loves.'
Rant over.
