It sucks. You've been told over and over, "Oh, it will happen one day. God has a plan." And you've responded over and over in your head, "shut up." We know our friends and family have good intentions when saying these things, but we're so tired of hearing it. You've congratulated and celebrated friends and family who have succeeded in such parts of their lives, but there is that tiny area of your brain that goes, "Lord, when is it my turn." You've listened to recommended songs, but skipped them because the song is all about a love you've never experienced. You've prayed, cried, and felt ashamed because although you know you are worthy of love, it doesn't feel true because it has yet to be proven. Sometimes it feels suffocating; dramatic as it sounds, I know the feeling.

Usually, these types of letters end the reader feeling inspired or hopeful. I can't give hope, and nothing I want to say will be inspiring. But, I do hope to give comfort in knowing that if you feel this way, you are not alone. From a girl who has never had a relationship, you are not alone. I won't say those annoying words, one day the boy who is meant for you will come, but I will say again and again you are not alone.

So what are we to do? The only answer I have: live. Use this season, to love those friends that you might not be able to if you were in a relationship. Live spontaneously. Love yourself. Learn more about yourself and your passions. And on the nights when you start to feel lonely, remember that tomorrow is a new day, and you can control how you feel and what you think. Don't obsess over it. Don't just sit around waiting. Just keep on going and live each day as fully as you can.