“Don’t let them walk all over you” they say as they themselves walk all over me. I’m like a welcome mat to some people. They walk over me, on me, and sometimes when just walking on me isn’t enough, they’ll rub their feet on me. Not literally, of course, but I’m talking about people who go above and beyond using you as a push-over. I lost myself to that and I’m done with it.
No, I can’t drive you here. No, I won’t pick you up from there. Do I look like an Uber? Especially when you don’t give me gas money or you don’t even say a simple “thank you”. I’m tired of being the girl who just goes along with everything because it’s easier than getting into an argument. If I’m not happy with how something is going, I’m going to say something. I’m tired of putting other people’s happiness before mine. If I don’t like something, I’m going to say it. If I don’t want to do something, I’m going to vocalize it.
People who truly love you either as a friend, or significant other, or family, will respect you. They’ll respect your voiced opinion and understand that you’re aloud to have one. Being nice is all well and good, and you should be nice, but sometimes being nice gets you used. Sometimes you need to be selfish, sometimes you need to put yourself first regardless.
If a friend is being needy and always needing you to give them a ride, or to do things for them, maybe it’s not a friend. I’ve learned this the hard way and I’m not trying to go down this road again. I’m not being that person that people use anymore. It sucks. There’s nothing good about it. Fake friends are never beneficial and friends who are selfish aren’t fun. They use you as their punching bag, you always take brunt of things.
I’m going to be more selfish. I’m going to make sure that my opinion isn’t just “I don’t care” or “yeah, sure”. I’m going to make sure my opinion is “I’d rather do this” or “I can’t, I’m busy.” I’m not just there for anyone when they have no one else. I’m not a second choice. I’m going to please myself by doing whatever I please!!!
