A feeling you will never understand unless you experience it; Leaving the person you love.
If you are as lucky as I once was, I got to live 10 minutes away from the person I adored and spent everyday together. For a short period of time, life felt almost perfect. But as we all know, luck runs out, as did mine, and if you’re in a similar situation, as will yours.
The goodbye: The first time you say your goodbyes and go your separate ways will be one of the saddest days you will experience. If you’ve never seen your significant other cry, this will be that day. Your emotions will run wild and for some reason there’s not a word in the world to explain how you feel and how thankful you are for their presence. You will second guess your decision on going away to school or not trying to live closer to them. Don’t second guess. Don’t back out. Say your goodbyes and leave. You will most likely cry the rest of the way home or worse, the rest of the night. But eventually, it will be okay.
The beginning: Maybe it’s a week or so since you’ve been apart. It’s constant “I miss yous” everyday. Neither of you can explain what you’re feeling, hence this is the longest you’ve ever been apart. Not to scare you, but you will go a lot longer than a week. Get used to the feeling of missing that one person.
To Give up or Try Harder: This part will come. I’m promising you. At one point in your relationship you will be forced to either give up or keep fighting. Things will get ridiculously hard, trust issues really do exist, and usually the distance will hit you in full effect. Some days you will want to give up, it may seem easier at the moment. Having a relationship over a phone is nowhere near easy. There will even come a point when your family, friends, or acquaintances second guess your decision on long distance. Truth is, many people are against it or refer to it as "pointless." Don't let others influence your decision. Distance shouldn't matter as long as the person across the phone makes you unconditionally happy (remember that on the bad days).
My experience with distance has been a hard journey. Leaving the person you love behind and starting a whole new life in college is devastating. The key is to find the one person that holds your head up and constantly gives you endless amounts of hope.
I’m currently 2 hours and 43 minutes away from the person I love. And somehow, someway, we fight for each other everyday (even when we want to kill one another). Although we’ve had the crappiest days of all time, we’ve made it work. But don’t get me wrong, the days don’t get easier. In fact they never have or will be easy. But it’s good to know that another day of being apart, is one day closer to seeing each other again.
