In my life, I am constantly called “direct,” which is meant in positive and negative ways. While some people love that I call it as I see it, others find that I am too blunt and abrasive. I can apparently scare people off, but I can also be the best person in your life. Some see it as a face, it’s also the personality.

Instead of the quiet persona or the pretty words, being “direct” is getting down to the point. No fluffy, pretty words. Sometimes, it’s funny. Sometimes, it hurts. Either way, it is these qualities that make up “direct” women:

1. Call people out for bullshit.

For some reason people think they can get away with shit, but that isn’t the case. If one sees an elephant in the room, she doesn’t ignore it. Even the smallest detail is under observation and expect some questions.

2. Call people out for stupidity. (There’s a difference.)

“It’s stupid. That’s your stupid. You’re stupid. Everything stupid. Try again.” Instead of trying to pull the wool over someone’s eyes, it’s just being stupid and making stupid choices.

3. Probably swears

“Bad” words aren’t “sad” words. They’re there, fucking use them.

4. Snarky/ sassy/ sarcastic/ asshole

“Sasshole” is not a thing. You can be sassy. You can be an asshole. You can be both. But “Sasshole” is not a thing, because sassy people who are assholes don’t like cute nicknames.

5. Not shy

Don’t expect us to beat around the bush. We meet a lot of people, but we don’t make a lot of friends. To the friends we have, we are incredibly loyal and will destroy their enemies.

6. Best advice

It’s just common sense, but some people can’t even do that.

7. Runs with the “Big Boys”

On top of all things “direct” women can do, dealing and running with the “big boys” remains a crowning achievement of telling people no and “You’re stupid.” No charms work, so don’t flirt and smile. We see right through the lies.

8. Feminist.

Obviously.

9. “Resting bitch face” with a matching murder stance

We will not be messed with, so don’t even try. If you somehow manage to “win,” know that we let you and we’ll get what we want soon.

10. Probably called a b*tch or c*nt.

We are not bothered. We are not impressed. We are not turned on. We are not annoyed.

11. Unimpressed by people’s existence.

Yet, impressed how some people are still alive.

12. Authority problems

Respect bestowed or respect earned? If you are the boss, know that a watchful eye is on you. While we support you, just know that we will call you out for bullshit or stupidity.

13. Eyes on us

We’re well aware on how to command a room. Our presence alone does it, but we don’t mind saying something drastic.

14. Doesn’t care about being liked.

I know this might come as a shock, but our worlds don’t revolve around you.

15. Move on.