The best relationships are the ones you’d never expect. He came out of nowhere, caught you off guard and the next thing you know, you’ve fallen head over heels for him.

If one thing is for sure, we all wish life gave us a manual on how to deal with break ups and how to properly get over a guy.

Dierks Bentley’s song, “Its Different For Girls” couldn’t say it any better. If you don’t cry or feel inspired after listening, have you actually been in love?

But really, when it comes to break ups, guys and girls have different ways of dealing with it.

Unlike boys, after a breakup, girls don’t text their friends saying they need to get laid tonight, all to just forget about their ex.

Unlike boys, girls don’t just brush off their shoulders and say “It’s ok, I never loved him anyways”.

Unlike boys, girls won’t scroll through their phone just looking for a band-aid. Seeing other guys after a break up is never the same, even when they are un-doubtingly attractive. The only thoughts running through your head is memories with your ex. All you want are those memories to come back alive like nothing ever happened. All you do when with another guy is compare them to your ex. And that sucks, it hurts and unknowingly pushes you farther into the hole you’ve built for yourself.

Unlike boys, when a girls hearts are broken, they can’t tape it back together with a whiskey and coke.

Sure, being single comes with lots of fun with friends and new people, but drinking your memories away wont actually make them go away. Poor decisions and guilty make outs never make the feeling of a break up go away. While the change in status may feel like the worst, save yourself from the shambly nights and find other ways to relieve the pain. Working out and finding a new hobby not only get the thoughts out of your head, but makes yourself a better you.

Unlike boys, girls can’t just find a new hook up and act like everything is normal. Plain and simple, you’re not going to find the love of your life right after a break up, so don’t rush it. Fall back in love with yourself.

Nobody said it was fair that guys and girls deal with breakups so differently. But when love disappears, don’t pretend it wasn’t there. Embrace it.

For now, seeing him happy being away from you wont last forever. Nothing lasts forever and his fake front will eventually disappear. Do yourself a favor and don’t let that stop you from becoming the best you can be. FEEL the pain, embrace it and remember, you’re in this world for a reason and it obviously wasn’t for that guy who lost the greatest girl out there. You will be able to go out again and have a genuine smile on your face. He’ll see it and realize he made one of the biggest mistakes of his life, and that right there, that’s when he’ll hurt. He lost the girl who loved him more then any other girl ever has, or ever will. And in that moment, you’ll realize he was just one of those chapters in your many memories to come.