Food for thought: keep your hands to yourself ALWAYS . Something as simple as this cannot be emphasized enough, especially in adults, who seem to have a bad habit of putting their hands on someone unnecessarily.
I bring this issue up because of a recent subway incident that occurred Monday morning on November 14; yes this past Monday (fairly recent no?). Monday mornings are dreadful for anyone since for most of us, it's the start of the work/school week and the trains are no exception. Of course, during rush hour, the trains are packed as all hell and everyone is invading the next person's personal bubble. There's always going to be that one person who flips out because of another stranger constantly pushing them. With all seriousness, there is no helping gravity. It's going to happen on a packed train so please, get over it.
Now, the train was only semi-packed, nothing close to a sardine can for that moment. I had noticed a gentleman standing in front of me, slightly staggering, leaning into my already small personal space but I pay it no mind. The woman next to me had it a tad worse, considering his constant movement kept pushing her into the pole. Eventually, enough of the dirty looks she was giving him caught his attention and that's when shenanigans started. He addressed her asking what her problem was; a little attitude in his tone, but then again who wouldn't be? She replied that he's constantly pushing her and couldn't even apologize for it. He claims he was sick and she in turn said she was ill as well. Then it followed through where he told her to not piss him off; she replied likewise.
I'm standing practically next to her, minding my own business and scrolling through Facebook to pass the time. The gentleman himself is right in front of me and I notice his hands clench. That was the time to put my phone away because something usually happens once someone starts clenching their hands into fists. Sure enough, not even a minute later, he practically grabs her by her clothes as if to punch her; I'm standing right there, in his line of fire and I was not having it. In response she threw her coffee at him, while me and another gentlemen grabbed his clothes and pushed him back. Needless to say, he proceeded to repeat his actions a second time and the same actions were repeated.
Here's the thing: no matter what situation, always, ALWAYS keep your hands to yourself. Just because the other party is running their mouth does not give any right to start grabbing them. Either just swallow your pride and take it or get off and wait for the next train. Her reaction to throwing coffee at him was poorly decided upon but it did just happen in the moment. The concept of, "You don't put your hands on a woman" is heavily placed upon men; there's a lot of consideration to physical strength. Understandable.In retrospect, however, women should keep their hands to themselves; just because they're guys and shouldn't put their hands on a woman, doesn't gives females any right to instigate them. You get what you give and what you get as a result.
Really, you shouldn't even complain about it.
