Did You Know You Can Marry Yourself?
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Did You Know You Can Marry Yourself?

"If need be, I'll marry myself"-Tina Fey

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Did You Know You Can Marry Yourself?
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My decision to get married, hitched, or tie the knot is mine and only my concern. With or without a partner. Honestly, I cannot see myself being involved with multiple people over a short or long period of time. There is a new marriage trend: and it's when you marry yourself! Yes, indeed, people can marry themselves.

"Sologamy is the marriage of someone to one's own self--the his- or herness of it is not relevant." by The Lid Blog. Contrary to what people think, it is not some new trend to distract the public from same sex marriage. I am so glad marriage equality is finally a thing, but it just so happens that sologamy has its own benefits--and the pros outweigh the cons.

In Sologamy, you decide what type of wedding you want. Simply put, it's mostly what YOU want to do and not what others want. I have made a pact to myself that if I cannot find anyone I want to settle down with when I'm 30, I will effectively marry myself. I have always dreamed of having a wedding at the beach, and somewhere not too hot or cold. In other words, it is great, new way to honor yourself and to celebrate your accomplishments in the long run.

I have also given thought that "what if I find someone really attractive and I'm married to myself? Would it be considered cheating?" My thoughts on this are no, you wouldn't be cheating unless you are married to another person. The only way I see myself cheating on myself is by eating something that isn't in my diet plan, not working out like I should, skipping church every Sunday, or simply praying at night. By not doing those things, I put myself at risk for being mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually weak. If I find someone attractive when I'm married to myself, I may or may not act on it. Most of the time, I will not. It's also a way of respecting your body and the limits you set forth to live by.

When critics say the only reason people would marry themselves is that they're "self-absorbed, narcissistic feminists with a millennial-like mindset."

I beg to differ.

I don't see myself as stuck up, but an enlightened individual willing to commit to myself and be the best I know how to be. By committing to myself in Sologamy, I am telling myself I find happiness and comfort in being in my own skin, and that I don't need anyone else to make me feel happy or be secure about myself. I only need me (with the exception of a few felines, of course!) to feel secure. Plus, I don't see myself settling down with a family, rather, I'd like to travel the country, and see what this beautiful nation has to offer.

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