The only thing that should determine your self worth is you. Your worth should not come from friendships or a relationship or what your major is or anything else of the matter- it should come from who you are. It's hard- I know. I'm working on it too, and honestly I'm partially writing this for me to read. I have tried to find my worth in so many different things and people and I've come to the conclusion that my worth is just that- it is MINE.
I have a really big heart and it's because of that that I have allowed myself to get screwed over time after time after time. For the longest time I put my worth in my outer appearance (what am I saying? I still do this a lot). I thought that if I fixed my makeup and did my hair everyday that people would appreciate me more because I looked better than if I just woke up, did the basics, and went out for the day. I realized rather recently that I can look like a 10 (not likely to ever happen, but you get the point) but that my looks will get me nowhere if I have a sour personality that accompanies them. Far too often guys think with something other than their brain (cough, cough) and I think that's the reason that girls so often put their worth into their looks. Our brains say "the better I look, the more guys that may be attracted to me," but unless you're just looking for an occasional hookup- it's going to take a lot more than looking good to make a relationship work. It takes a heart and a brain and a lot of other things.
We also have the tendency to put our worth in our friendships. The more friends we have the more worth we have- or so we think. A hard, hard lesson to learn about friendships is that its not the quantity that matters, but the quality. Honestly that's just one of those things that most people are going to have to find out the hard way. We all need someone we can trust and truthfully it's hard to find those people. I have no shame in saying that there is not a single person that I trust 100% (sorry Mom). I do have people that I trust, but I also have my fair share of things that I just keep to myself and that is totally okay. Does that lessen my worth? No. I have people in my life that I would die for- not many- but a few and that's what really matters.
Our self worth is determined by us. We decide how we feel about ourselves and then other people can make their decisions based on that. Don't let that guy who keeps ignoring you or that girl that ditched you at a party determine your value. You are beautiful. You are strong. And you are worth so damn much. Let me reiterate that- YOU ARE WORTH SO DAMN MUCH. Go out there and let the world know that.
